Therapy Thursday: A Listener Hates When Her Boyfriend Shows Her Girls Online He Likes!
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00:00All right, it is your Upstairs Hollywood Medical University graduates,
00:05emotional support, Animal Rich.
00:08What's up?
00:08Meredith, MD, Orlando BGYN.
00:12We are all in here to help you through your day.
00:15Yes.
00:15A day that you got some stresses on you and some different things that you're dealing with.
00:19You might need to talk it out, work it out.
00:21That's why we do Therapy Thursday.
00:23Any topic is on point because we're an expert at nothing, but we will fake it.
00:27All right, let's see.
00:28Out of the 813, it says, Freaks, my divorce is finalized on Friday from my husband of 18 months.
00:39Ooh.
00:40It's my third divorce, but the first one that I didn't file for.
00:45I feel like I'm damaged goods.
00:47Will I find my Prince Charming, my forever love?
00:50Can I, after all of this, I'll be 30 years old and alone for my next birthday?
00:57Okay.
00:57We need to slow down on the relationships just a little bit.
01:01And somebody's got to tell you, and it might have to be me, okay?
01:05You don't always have to jump into a new relationship, and you don't always have to assume that that relationship is going to be your next marriage.
01:12You need to take a break maybe for yourself.
01:14If you need to get some, that's a totally separate issue.
01:16But, I mean, you're 30, and you just got divorced, and that's your third marriage.
01:20I think we need to take a little step back.
01:22Each one is individual.
01:24That's totally fine.
01:25You can definitely find love again.
01:26You can definitely get married for the fourth time, and it can be successful.
01:30Let's take a break.
01:31Forever's a long time, all right?
01:33Listen, marriage is forever.
01:36What are you telling?
01:37Listen, trial and error.
01:38If it's not working out, hey, it's okay.
01:4018 months.
01:41It's okay.
01:42She is not the one that filed for it.
01:45Forever's a long time.
01:46If you've got to keep on trying, keep on trying.
01:48If you're finding your forever person and you're trying to do that, I understand it as far as, like, your happily ever after, if that's what your mind is on.
01:56But like Meredith said, taking a break and not trying to find your replacement husband is probably the most telling part of it.
02:05And honestly, with you saying that you didn't file this time, I don't know what the situations were before where you had to get out and get away.
02:12But this time, you might have brought unfinished baggage into this one, and you might just need to get yourself right.
02:22Yeah.
02:22Kind of like she said, spend some time with yourself, fall in love with yourself, get to know yourself.
02:26Yeah.
02:27So when a person does come in your space, they get to know you and not the travels that you've had for those three relationships.
02:33Yeah.
02:33So you're good.
02:34You're not damaged, but you do need to take a pause and kind of, like, get focused.
02:38Okay.
02:39That's my idea.
02:39This one's out of Polk County.
02:41It specifically says that.
02:42I started dating this new chick, and we were recently making out.
02:45That's when I found out that she dips.
02:48I was so grossed out when she took out the tin.
02:50She said, that's what we do here in Polk County.
02:53I don't know if I even want to deal with this.
02:55I was grossed out.
02:56Do you think she'll quit for me?
02:57I just love the fact that they wrote it was Polk County.
03:01Like, people don't dip any other parts.
03:04Like, they dip all over the bay.
03:06Yeah, but that was her excuse.
03:08I'm from Polk County, so I dip.
03:09Like, come on.
03:09Okay, first of all, I've heard that before.
03:11Okay, I have never met a woman who does, but I know people who do.
03:16And I would assume if it's nicotine-based and a woman is into nicotine, she would...
03:22I'm not saying it's...
03:23You know, it's not something that I would enjoy.
03:26Yeah.
03:26Because I, you know...
03:28I'm not dating somebody that...
03:29I'm not going to judge you, though.
03:30I'm not going to...
03:30If you're a dipper, I'm not going to...
03:32I'm going to judge you.
03:33From somebody...
03:34I mean, I'm sorry.
03:36I'm not going to judge you, but I'm...
03:37I'm judging you.
03:38I mean, if I was dating you, I...
03:40From somebody that was a dipper because I played baseball, it was, like, a part of the whole
03:44culture of it, it is a disgusting habit, and it's a hard one to kick if you've been
03:49doing it for a long time, but it is kickable.
03:52And if it's...
03:53This is something that disgusts you, then talk to her about it.
03:56If she's willing to change, then stay with her.
03:59If she's not...
03:59But, bro, like, you're...
04:01Ew.
04:02Like, you...
04:03When you kiss a person that smokes, you taste it.
04:06So, I'm assuming if you're a dipper, you probably taste that, too.
04:10When you did it, did the girls taste it in your mouth?
04:12Uh, they never said anything about it, but it used to be, like, winter green, so it's
04:16kind of freshening up.
04:17Minty?
04:17Yeah, minty.
04:17Would you stop it?
04:18We can definitely tell.
04:19Oh, yeah, definitely.
04:20All of a sudden, I have a buzz.
04:21When you were dipping, did you know any girls who did it?
04:25No, not at all.
04:26This is, like, the first time I've heard about that.
04:27Yeah, I have never heard of a girl doing it, but I'm assuming...
04:30Stop.
04:30That's what they said.
04:31I mean...
04:32She was bragging about it.
04:34Don't generalize.
04:35I'm not, but that's what the person texted us.
04:37All right, this says out of the 727, if my ex-wife cheated and left on a dime, why is
04:43she saying if I get hurt by the new girl, she will beat her ass?
04:49Shouldn't she beat her own ass since she hurt me the most?
04:52Yeah.
04:53She still loves you.
04:54She regrets doing what she did, and you're going to end up moving on, and she's going
04:59to feel some type of way about it.
05:00Do it.
05:01Go find somebody and let her feel the pain that she caused you.
05:05Well, you know what it is?
05:06You know how they say, watch how you leave a job?
05:09Yes.
05:09Leave a job how you got the job, like with class.
05:12She's trying to leave the relationship that she messed up.
05:16She's trying to leave the relationship with a great impression of how much she still loves
05:20you.
05:20She made a mistake, you know, and that's terrible, and you don't have to forgive that at all,
05:25because once you betrayed, you're betrayed.
05:28Yeah.
05:28But she's trying to leave that impression on you, so when you go out and find out that
05:32these streets ain't got nothing for you out here, and when you circle back, you're going
05:37to think, hey, man, she's got my back.
05:39Got you.
05:39That's what she's trying to do.
05:40She's trying to earn you back.
05:42Out of the 813, my boyfriend likes other girls' pictures, but he thinks that it's okay because
05:48he shows me them.
05:49I still don't like it.
05:52Well, I mean, at least he's showing them to you.
05:54There's something to be said about that.
05:55He takes the picture and then shows you the girl.
05:57Yeah.
05:58Some people just, they think that this is the worst thing you could potentially do.
06:02It's kind of like checking out a girl, like obviously, in front of your significant other.
06:07Some people just don't care, and obviously she does, so he's going to have to tighten
06:10it up a little bit.
06:11I would definitely talk to him about it, because this feeling isn't going to go away.
06:14Liking photos, I mean, that's on every single social media.
06:19I'm just saying, but he likes it, but then he shows you, hey, babe, look at this.
06:23Okay, you can't, I mean, we can't be mad at everything.
06:27Like if he's liking chicks and sliding in DMs and doing all that, that's one thing.
06:31If he's sitting next to you and he's like, babe, look at this.
06:35You're not hiding nothing.
06:37She doesn't like it, though.
06:38Right, and so discuss that part.
06:40Talk to him about that part, but I'm saying at least he's not hiding it.
06:44You can't treat him like you would treat everybody else that's doing stuff behind your back,
06:48because he's not that guy.
06:50Now, he might be a little too friendly with it, like as far as sharing it with you,
06:53you don't feel comfortable, you kind of want to check him on that, then go for it.
06:57But just don't lump him in with the other dudes, because it's not a secret.
07:00It's him being a little bit too forthwith with you.
07:02This says more about yourself.
07:04If you're insecure about him, like in all the girls' pictures, this is more about you.
07:08If he's showing you, he's trying to show you that it's not a problem.
07:11Right, yeah.
07:11He's like, hey, babe, look at this, girl.
07:13She got a good little bag.
07:14Look at this right here.
07:15You know what I mean?
07:16Like, yeah, you can't be mad at everything.
07:18We got more coming up, don't move.
07:20All right, Freak Show, Wild 94.1 Bay's Party Station.
07:22You got your therapist going on up in here with Therapy Thursday,
07:26hooked up by Demesman and Dover.
07:28All right, so what we got?
07:30This says out of the 813,
07:32my husband and I have been together for 20 years.
07:35I am bisexual, and we sometimes invite a woman into our bedroom
07:39with each other's approval.
07:41A friend of mine knows this and wants us to be her first experience.
07:47However, we are not attracted to her whatsoever.
07:50And we really don't want to.
07:51So how do we tell her without hurting her feelings or even ruining our relationship
07:56and friendship with her?
07:58Oh, damn.
07:58You tell her that you are too close to do that and that it will feel weird after.
08:04You don't want to ruin the relationship.
08:05You don't want to ruin the relationship.
08:06That would absolutely work.
08:07That would absolutely work.
08:10Because, I mean, realistically, if they're like, man, you guys have this fun lifestyle,
08:14I want to try it.
08:15And you're like, eh.
08:17That would mess up the whole friendship right there.
08:22I don't know.
08:23Like, hey, we don't want to lose your friendship.
08:25We've lost many people.
08:26We do those things and those people go away and we can get back to our lives.
08:30But we're doing it with you coming back over tomorrow for Scrabble or whatever.
08:35You know what I'm saying?
08:35That would be kind of weird.
08:37And we would not want it to be that weird.
08:38So we can't do it.
08:39Put her on a pedestal.
08:41Make her feel like the most special, most important person almost to end your life.
08:44And you would never want to ruin the relationship over it.
08:46You are the best friend ever.
08:48You beastly lucking, but you're the best friend ever.
08:52You can leave that part out.
08:54All right.
08:55Out of the A63, Dear Wild, I turned down dating a guy because I had interviewed for a job and
09:00got it.
09:00And prior to the interview, I looked up staff and discovered he's one of my bosses.
09:06I feel so much chemistry with him and I'm actually incredibly infatuated with him, but
09:11I love my job.
09:12Now he's taking one of my friends out and she's gushing about it.
09:16And I can't help but feel like I lost my man.
09:19You did.
09:19Do I do?
09:20You did.
09:21No, you lost him.
09:22You lost him.
09:22You made a decision.
09:24You said, man, okay, to thine own self be true.
09:26What did you say?
09:27I love my job.
09:28If you love your job, you realize that this thing is a challenge to your loving of your
09:32job.
09:33So stick with what you rode with.
09:35You rode with your job.
09:36Now let she don't care about her job.
09:38She want to ride on that main.
09:39Yeah.
09:40Let her go in.
09:41Can she say anything to him privately?
09:43No.
09:44Really?
09:45You're going to ruin your job.
09:46Don't be thotty pipping.
09:47But they liked each other.
09:49It was mutual, right?
09:51They both liked each other.
09:52They were going to, I'm just, I'm just asking if they're allowed to.
09:55If the job is important to you, don't mess up the bag.
09:58I agree.
09:59There's so many options out here.
10:01There are more men options than women out here.
10:04Like as far as single available guys, they're out there.
10:07Just find you something else that don't have its attachment to your check.
10:10What if that's supposed to be her future husband, the love of her life and she's just missing out?
10:14Like you said before, you made your decision.
10:16One, you don't want to ruin your job, but you also don't want to ruin your relationship with your friend.
10:22And if this is a good guy and you feel like this is a good guy, be happy for your friend.
10:25Go get you a new man.
10:26That's what you need.
10:27Go get you a new man.
10:27What does that say?
10:28And what does that say about your friendship if you see your friend happy?
10:32Yeah.
10:32And then you're like, ooh, but I want him.
10:34I know.
10:35What kind of crap is that?
10:37It's not a good suggestion.
10:39I was just asking if she was allowed to talk to him.
10:42You're not.
10:42You're not allowed.
10:43Right there.
10:44All right.
10:45Your Therapy Thursday is a wrap.
10:46You're not allowed to talk to him.