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00:00I want to play foosball.
00:02Come on, Trina.
00:03Come on.
00:04Boom.
00:05Whoa.
00:07Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:10I want to try to hold it.
00:13Oh.
00:16So I start apply for my parents' visa two months ago,
00:19not telling anybody.
00:21Brennan took this so hard.
00:23I'm immigrant here.
00:25I don't have my family.
00:26I don't have my friends.
00:27I don't have anybody here.
00:28It's hard, so you're not alone.
00:31You went out after hours with Darcy and Georgie.
00:35There was two hot blonde chicks, okay,
00:37that Darcy saw you leave the club with.
00:39Are you f***ing another woman behind my back?
00:42The clues are looking like he's cheating.
00:44Makeup on the shirt, him walking girls home late at night.
00:47Tired of giving all my good years to someone
00:50who's just gonna, like, f*** me over in the end.
00:53Do you have someone in mind
00:55that you want to have an open marriage with?
00:58Yes.
00:59That's cheating.
01:00I haven't cheated, and that's why I'm here.
01:02No, it's not an excuse for cheating.
01:04You are a cheater, yes.
01:05I'm a cheater.
01:06You enjoy your life.
01:07Okay, perfect.
01:08Have a good one.
01:09Okay.
01:10Bye.
01:11How the heck proposing ethical, non-monogamous marriage
01:14is cheating?
01:16I just wanted to save my marriage.
01:18I don't know how, and I...
01:20I don't know what to do.
01:22I don't know.
01:24♪
01:55♪
02:11I know he's mad.
02:13He's very mad and hurt.
02:17And I don't want to hurt him.
02:19Gina!
02:21I'm here. I have to talk with you.
02:23I want to have a drink.
02:24Please.
02:29My heart just...
02:30broken for that situation
02:32because I don't want you call her cheater
02:34because she are not.
02:36She wants an open marriage with this guy
02:38that she already knows which guy to be with.
02:40But she never touch him.
02:42She never kiss him.
02:43She never have any intimacy, any point.
02:45Okay, so why is she going out with this guy then?
02:48She don't have anybody here except him.
02:50Mm-hmm.
02:52She have you and some random dude from gym club.
02:54And I feel her because she don't have anybody
02:56except you and that country.
02:58But I don't like how she's put me in a corner.
03:00She not cheating on you.
03:02That's all what I want to tell.
03:04She not cheating on you.
03:06She love you from all her heart.
03:10Here I am thinking, you know,
03:12things have been pretty good recently with Jasmine and I,
03:15so maybe we can turn things around
03:17and we can be happy together as a couple.
03:19And so hearing her where she says
03:22she wants to have an open marriage with Matt,
03:26already has a guy picked out,
03:28means that she was having a relationship with this guy
03:31prior to coming to therapy behind my back.
03:34To me, that already feels like a betrayal.
03:40What happened?
03:41Where's Geno?
03:42I don't know.
03:43He said that I cheated on him.
03:44What?
03:45You did?
03:46Because I told him about us.
03:48What?
03:49I had a friend with an open marriage and everything,
03:51and I told him about Matt.
03:52But you didn't do that.
03:53You did not cheat.
03:54No, never.
03:56No, no, no, no, no, no.
03:58The guy from the gym, like a friend.
04:00Yes.
04:01Okay.
04:02I don't know.
04:03I'm tired of them.
04:04Have any of us cheated or...
04:06No.
04:07I never, if I were cheating, I'd say,
04:09look, I look like a cheater.
04:10No, you don't.
04:11I swear on my ear, our queen.
04:13We got you, Jazzy.
04:15That's crazy.
04:17He's, like, assuming.
04:19Okay, come sit down.
04:21We got you, Mama.
04:22We got you.
04:23Okay.
04:24Oh, no.
04:26Oh, no.
04:29Come on, Natalie.
04:31Okay, okay.
04:33It's a crazy night.
04:34Wow.
04:35Everything's being exposed while we're here.
04:37And you know what?
04:38It's for the better because we need to know the truth.
04:41We need to know the truth and facts.
04:43Yes, that's why we're here.
04:46What a crazy freaking night.
04:48You know, this is my worst nightmare.
04:51I find out that Florian walked some hot chick home in Miami,
04:55and I'm supposed to believe that's all that happened?
04:58I deserve something more than just,
05:00I didn't do anything wrong.
05:03I hear those words all the time.
05:05Like, I really can't trust his words right now.
05:10We got you, girl.
05:13Can I sit with you, Florian?
05:15Oh, you can sit wherever you want.
05:16Oh, thank you.
05:17Thank you, my friend.
05:21And I thought this was supposed to be a good night tonight.
05:23F*** that s***.
05:24Let me f*** this s*** up.
05:26Gino, my boy.
05:27What happened?
05:28Sal, spill tea.
05:29Hi, Gino.
05:30Yeah, so Jasmine pulled me to the side,
05:31and she wanted to talk to me.
05:33Then she started pushing an open relationship,
05:36and I asked her,
05:38do you have a person in mind
05:39that you want to have this open relationship with?
05:41And she says yes.
05:44And who is this person?
05:45She's got a guy in mind.
05:46Some dude from her gym.
05:49Now, she's been going to the gym
05:53for several hours a day lately.
05:56Oh, f***.
05:57Drink and smoke, be with him, huh?
06:01And he immediately, oh, you're shitting, you're shitting.
06:04For you to accuse a person like that,
06:06you have to have, like, evidence.
06:09It really hurt me.
06:11I was being vulnerable to him,
06:13letting him know, like, everything, being honest.
06:15He said, you failed me, you f***ing cheater.
06:18But he's not even having sex with you.
06:20Exactly.
06:21I don't understand.
06:22I don't understand Gino.
06:23I don't.
06:25I like Jasmine.
06:27I think she's cool, but to be honest,
06:29I do not think of Gino like a crazy man
06:32because this guy Matt didn't come out of the blue.
06:36I do think it was not accidentally this guy chosen.
06:39She might be cheating.
06:41She might.
06:44So, I meet that guy.
06:46You met this guy?
06:47You met the guy?
06:48Yes.
06:49Where?
06:50We call him online.
06:51How does he look, this guy?
06:53So, here, like, have a little dark hair.
06:56Here, like, have a big muscle.
06:58He looks like another man.
06:59He, like, have big muscle.
07:00He looks like someone else.
07:01He's have big muscle.
07:02Yes.
07:03That is f***ed up, man.
07:04OK.
07:06No, bigger.
07:07No, bigger.
07:08No way, I don't believe that.
07:09He's bigger than you are.
07:10That's f***ed up.
07:11Hey, Gino said he doesn't want to know what this guy looks like.
07:12Gino don't want to know.
07:13So, why are you guys torturing him with this information?
07:15Yeah, I really don't care.
07:16This girl come with the information.
07:17All I need to know is she is with the guy,
07:19which I already know.
07:20That's all he needs to know.
07:22To me, cheating isn't just going and having sex with someone else.
07:27Building an emotional connection with someone, that's very bad.
07:30If you're doing it behind your spouse's back,
07:33that's, like, the worst of the worst.
07:37It's very suspicious to me that she's introducing Matt to her friends.
07:40That just shows that she has some kind of emotional connection with him.
07:44That really worries me.
07:52F***ing Lorien, man.
07:53What happened with Lorien?
07:55Georgie called Darcy.
07:57There was these two blonde chicks in Miami
07:59that he was hanging out with after hours, late at night.
08:02And she saw him leave the bar with these two blonde chicks.
08:07Well, one of the chicks saw Georgie's night
08:11and was like, oh, by the way, tell Lorien
08:14thank you for walking me home that night.
08:17Wave.
08:18Yeah?
08:19Yeah, yeah, yeah.
08:20And it was, like, four or five in the morning.
08:22Like, after hours, you know?
08:25I'm not going to go back to the room with Lorien.
08:27Mm-mm.
08:29I don't want to be next to him.
08:32I just kind of feel like I really have a lot to think about.
08:34Because I don't deserve this.
08:36So I guess I'm sleeping with you tonight, Darce?
08:38Sure.
08:40I definitely need time to process
08:43and figure out what I'm going to do in this marriage
08:45and figure out how I'm going to trust him again.
09:02Hey.
09:08Did you sleep OK?
09:11Tired today.
09:12Yeah, me too.
09:33Good morning.
09:35Good morning.
09:36Why are you shy?
09:38Oh, you're so cute.
09:40Come here, Mommy and Daddy.
09:42Mommy and Daddy.
09:43Good morning.
09:46Let me sit near you.
09:47Between.
09:48Come on, come on.
09:49Let child sit between Mommy and Daddy.
09:51That's what it's like having kids.
09:53Yeah.
09:54I don't want kids anymore.
09:56I give you example.
09:58After last night, our relationship is have a big question mark.
10:03Because Brandon say he are done with that marriage.
10:07I didn't know what to expect from today.
10:10But I hope he are sleep is over happy
10:13and we will be have conversation.
10:16How was your sleep?
10:18Do you miss me?
10:23High energy Julia, first thing in the morning.
10:27I don't know how you do it, Brandon.
10:31Thank you guys for let me sleep here.
10:34Yeah, for sure.
10:35Have you spoken to Brandon?
10:36No, since yesterday I not see him, not spoke with him at all.
10:40I won't give him space last night.
10:43That's what he want.
10:45I have to talk with him because yesterday he say he go home today.
10:49So you think he serious about going home before the end?
10:52Yeah.
10:54If he divorces you because like he's angry that your parents are coming,
10:58then that shows you all you need to know that he's not a supportive person for you.
11:03And if he's leaving and he is going to leave, then what's your plan?
11:07If Brandon decides to leave and that is going to be we broke up,
11:10that's going to be our last chance when we have our relationship
11:15and we will be divorcing.
11:16I'm not going to be stay in this country.
11:18I will be go home.
11:20I don't have anybody except Brandon here.
11:22So what point I will be in this country if I don't have anybody here?
11:25Yeah.
11:26I will be go home to my family, to my friends and start my life from start there.
11:38Thanks for the pajamas.
11:39You're welcome.
11:40Came in handy.
11:41Well, don't fart in my bloomers.
11:45Maybe I did.
11:46Oh great.
11:47Delt it, delt it.
11:49I don't want them to smell like booty hole.
11:52Oh, stop it Darcy.
11:54I might just take them. Can I have them?
11:56No, they're cute.
11:57They're mine.
11:58I got to give them back.
11:59Yeah, you sure do.
12:00But I might want to wash them first.
12:03Darcy being here has been difficult.
12:05And I know we have our ups and downs.
12:07But she's a good sister and I feel like she has my back right now.
12:11You know, it's times like this that we need each other the most.
12:18Alright, alright.
12:19I got to go talk to this ass.
12:22Cheating asshole.
12:23Yep.
12:24You better wish me luck.
12:26Good luck.
12:27Good luck sis.
12:28Thank you for letting me spend the night.
12:31I told you I got your back.
12:35My goal for this conversation with Florian right now is to get the truth and nothing but the truth.
12:42I don't want excuses.
12:44I don't want him arguing and yelling.
12:47I'm hurt.
12:48I'm angry.
12:51And I want the truth.
12:52I want answers.
13:01What are you doing?
13:02Just packing.
13:04You weren't going to home?
13:06Julia's caused me a lot of pain and a lot of stress.
13:09Julia's caused me a lot of pain in the last few days.
13:12And I'm done.
13:13I can't take her keeping things from me.
13:15And I'm just ready to go home.
13:17After everything we've done, I don't see this as working.
13:40Knock, knock, knock.
13:46What's wrong?
13:47This is not a joke, Florian.
13:48What joke?
13:49Okay.
13:50I didn't open the door.
13:51You opened the door aggressively.
13:53What aggressive?
13:54Chill out.
13:55Chill out.
13:56Calm down.
13:57Can we have a normal conversation about what happened last night?
13:59Because I really don't want another fight and argument.
14:02We're here to work through our issues.
14:04But what I found out last night, that's the last straw, Florian.
14:08I'm not dealing with this no more.
14:25Tell me the truth.
14:26Tell me the truth.
14:27One more time.
14:30Everything.
14:31I want details and all.
14:39And talk in general, you know.
14:41And that night, I left.
14:44One of the girls is walking the same direction.
14:47You know, it's our neighbor, basically.
14:49So you didn't leave with two girls.
14:50You left with the one.
14:52I'm not left with no one.
14:54I just seen walking with her.
14:55Keep the story straight.
14:57And walking like same direction, you know.
14:59Almost like falling down, you know.
15:00He's drunk, you know.
15:01And I opened the main door.
15:03I buzzed the elevator.
15:05I go to my floor.
15:07Sid, this is the story.
15:08So you didn't take her back to her apartment?
15:10No.
15:11What the f**k?
15:12House?
15:13No.
15:14You know, wham, bam, thank you, ma'am.
15:16No, no, no, thank you, ma'am.
15:17No, no, no, no.
15:18I don't do that.
15:19Thank you, ma'am.
15:20I know you like to help people, damsels in distress.
15:23But where are you when I need your help?
15:25Well, I was sick and recovering.
15:27The f**k is wrong with you?
15:28I'm supposed to believe this story?
15:30And you're disappearing all the time?
15:31What's disappearing?
15:32You're f**ked up and you're gone.
15:33Your location's off.
15:34No, no, no.
15:35A last hurrah before you came here?
15:37What the f**k are you talking about?
15:39What am I supposed to think?
15:40What am I supposed to think?
15:41I can't trust you.
15:44I'm really upset right now
15:46because I feel like he needs to honor our marriage
15:49and our vows
15:50and be respectful to me.
15:53I was healing from surgery.
15:54I couldn't go out a lot.
15:55So it was like, f**k, like,
15:57I might be the damsel in distress.
16:00Take care of me
16:02instead of other women in our building.
16:06I want to believe you.
16:07I want to trust you.
16:08It's just, it's hard
16:09because I see all these patterns
16:11adding up like the past.
16:14And I know you're chivalrous at times.
16:19And that's great, you know?
16:21Maybe I would like to see that a little bit more,
16:23that side of you with just me,
16:25not with other women.
16:28I know I did mistake in the past.
16:31Like, this time I tell to Stacy the truth of what happened.
16:37Stacy not believe to me.
16:40It's upset me so much.
16:42Take me a long time to build this trust.
16:44And I work for this trust long time.
16:46And right now, this is,
16:48everything which I work is going down.
16:50This is not trust me no more.
16:53How would you feel if I stayed out late after hours
16:55and walked some guy home?
16:57And wouldn't you think the worst?
16:59Okay, I understand.
17:01Now you understand.
17:04In your mind, it's not a big deal,
17:06but to me it is.
17:08It's hard for me to let that go.
17:09Stacy, I'm telling you the truth.
17:11I'm not f***ing making up nothing.
17:13Okay, well then when I ask you about these kinds of things,
17:16stop getting aggressive and flipping it on me.
17:18No, I get, I get, I get aggressive.
17:21Defensive, that tells me that you're guilty.
17:34When you're yelling at me,
17:35it's like it goes in one ear out the other.
17:38Come softer.
17:39If you want me to be soft, you have to be soft.
17:51Stacy, make this more big than it is
17:54and explain to you in a wrong way.
17:57Can you just say you're sorry?
18:00I'm sorry.
18:04It's hard for me to trust Lorien
18:07because I still carry a lot of pain
18:09from when he cheated on me in the past.
18:12But we're here at this retreat to learn and grow.
18:15So right now, I choose to work on our marriage.
18:19And I feel like we still have a lot of work to do,
18:21but I hope that we can figure it out while we're here.
18:25This is it.
18:26This is the last time.
18:27I've had it.
18:28I love you, I want us to work.
18:30I love you, I love you.
18:31But just know, if it ever happens again
18:33and there's cold, hard proof, it's over.
18:36This is not a joke.
18:37We're just telling you a joke.
18:38No, I'm just letting you know.
18:39We're just letting you know it's him.
18:41Yeah.
18:50Yes, yes.
18:56Yesterday at the family therapy with James,
18:58Julia revealed that she had already filed
19:00for a visa for her parents to come to the United States
19:03without even my approval.
19:07I'm just so angry
19:10that I, once again, find something else out.
19:14And I'm done, I can't take her keeping things from me.
19:18me, and I am just ready to go home.
19:49After everything we've done, I don't see this as working.
20:11I'm tired.
20:12I keep trying to be positive about everything
20:15and work these steps and do what they're telling us.
20:19But then I'm the one who just keeps getting hurt.
20:22Julia's caused me a lot of pain in the last few days,
20:25and I really feel like I need to see
20:28that she's here for our relationship,
20:30here to make things work,
20:31and not just rip my heart out over and over again.
20:36And if she can't, that'll be the end of our marriage
20:39and me leaving the retreat.
20:48♪♪
21:19If I go to this therapy, there's not gonna be any more...
21:24secrets that are gonna come out?
21:48So speaking up and tell everything what we feel
21:51and asking him to do same.
21:53I love him, and I want this marriage to be working.
22:04I'll put a pause on this for now.
22:06Mm-hmm.
22:07See how things go today.
22:10♪♪
22:34You done with the bathroom yet?
22:36Yeah.
22:40I was shocked last night to hear Jasmine say
22:43that she's been spending time with this guy.
22:45To me, this emotional bond that she has with him
22:49that she doesn't have with me
22:51is like a slap in my face.
22:53Yeah, it upsets me because it just makes me feel,
22:57you know, not wanted or not needed.
23:10Like, we should be leaving as Benny and Ari did.
23:14Well, I mean, you, like, you really broke my heart yesterday.
23:17I am.
23:18I mean, we've been together for, like, four years.
23:20And I love you.
23:21And I never expected this from you.
23:23Okay, you know, I never thought,
23:25like, I was gonna propose this in my marriage, okay?
23:29It has turned around this way,
23:31but you have to understand that I do love you,
23:34that I have no intention whatsoever to hurt you,
23:37and that's the reason why I opened my heart to you yesterday.
23:41And I wanted to be honest.
23:42You broke my freaking heart.
23:47I believe Jasmine could be forcing this on me
23:51because she knows how much I love her
23:54and that it would be hard for me to walk away.
23:57But I have a lot more questions for Jasmine
24:00before I consider open marriage.
24:04I want to know more about this guy.
24:06Okay, you want to...
24:07Tell me, you know, who he is, where he's from,
24:12you know, how did you meet him.
24:14Give me more information about who this person is.
24:16Okay, his name is Matt.
24:18He is my same age.
24:19Does he work out at the gym?
24:21Yes, he work out. That's where we met.
24:23Have you been to his house?
24:24No, I haven't.
24:25You haven't been to his house?
24:26No, I haven't.
24:27So where do you guys go, like, after the gym?
24:30Where have you been going with him?
24:32To the cafe that is in front of the gym.
24:34It's literally across the street.
24:37Sorry, are you attracted to this guy?
24:39He's not ugly. He's good-looking.
24:44Well, I'm not going to lie, because you're going to see him
24:47if you let me eventually show you a picture of him.
24:50He's good-looking.
24:51Am I attracted to him?
24:52But I see him as a friend. I'm not in love.
24:55I love you, baby.
24:57Jesus, I hope you're not in love.
24:59No, I'm not in love.
25:00I've trusted you.
25:01I want us to be together.
25:02I want us to be together.
25:03I don't want to get divorced.
25:04I want us to grow older together.
25:06I want us to make things work.
25:07Baby, please.
25:08I haven't cheated on you, and it hurts me that you're accusing me.
25:11All I did was to be honest to you.
25:14And it hurts me that you think that way, you know,
25:16because I swear to God I haven't lied.
25:18Like, I promise.
25:19Like, this is, he's a friend.
25:22And how would you feel if I was with a gorgeous woman
25:26doing this step?
25:27This is exactly what we, what, if you agree on the open marriage,
25:31we both are going to negotiate how this is going to work for us.
25:36This open marriage is not just for me.
25:38It is us.
25:39Us, you know.
25:41It is us.
25:42We are the bond.
25:43We are the nucleus.
25:44And I hate to talk about this,
25:47You don't think you're going to build a bond
25:49with someone you're having sex with all the time,
25:52and going to the little coffee shop and all that stuff,
25:55and everywhere else that you guys go?
26:00Do I have a bond with him?
26:02Absolutely.
26:03He's my friend, you know.
26:06I love him.
26:07I love him.
26:08I love him.
26:09I love him.
26:10I love him.
26:11I love him.
26:12I love him.
26:13He's my friend, you know.
26:16I like the guy.
26:17He's cool.
26:19He's a good person.
26:21Am I in love with him?
26:22No.
26:25I don't think it's fair for Jasmine to give me an ultimatum
26:28of either let's have an open marriage or have sex with me,
26:34because she is avoiding fixing issues that we have in our relationship.
26:40But at the same time, I don't want our marriage to end,
26:44and I don't know what I'm going to do.
26:53I honestly, I need to think about all this stuff.
26:58I need to think about it, and I just need to think about it.
27:07Josh and Natalie, something's going on here.
27:09It's been three years, and I have never, ever seen where he lives.
27:15Although we're taking steps forward, I'm still in the back of my mind
27:20thinking about how bad I was treated for the majority of being here.
27:24Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
27:40Hi, guys.
27:41How are you?
27:42Hey.
27:43Come have a seat.
27:44Come on in.
27:46Pick a table.
27:47Pick a table.
27:49Hi.
27:50How are you?
27:51Hello.
27:52Hello.
27:53Hi.
27:54What's going on?
27:56Welcome, everyone.
27:57Thanks for being here.
27:58So as you guys probably have noticed, Ari and Binny are not here with us today.
28:01This is our first session without them, and, you know, this is kind of real, right?
28:05It shows you what can really happen when people aren't on the same page,
28:08aren't on the same page to you.
28:10So it's a big deal.
28:11It's a big deal.
28:12It's a big deal.
28:13And I can't wait to see you guys.
28:15It's a big deal.
28:16It's a big deal.
28:17It's a big deal.
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28:51I don't trust therapy.
28:52I don't know if that means we're doing like a trust fall or what, but I don't trust Sophie
28:55to catch me.
28:56I will catch you.
28:57You try, but you're weak.
29:00I am strong, and I would catch you because it's like adrenaline kicking because I'm going
29:04to save you, and I will catch you.
29:05Oh, it's like a mother lifting the car off of her child.
29:07You would just somehow be like, I need to save him.
29:10Yes.
29:11She would let me fall.
29:12No, I wouldn't.
29:13She'd be like, oh my God, he's so heavy.
29:14Get off of me.
29:15No.
29:16We're going to get into a trust-building icebreaker.
29:19Heidi and I are going to grab some notebooks, pens, and we're going to talk about writing
29:24down things that you trust about your partner.
29:27Now, they could be small or big.
29:29The point of this is just to really see that we do have trust in our partner.
29:34We may not have trust in the big, huge things at this moment, but we have trust, which is
29:38a foundation, right?
29:43Remember, it can be small.
29:49It can be big.
29:58Okay.
29:59Rob and Sophie.
30:00Sophie, let's start with you.
30:01I put, I trust my partner will look after our son.
30:09After our son?
30:10Our dog.
30:11Oh, I'm like, did I not know her?
30:13Our fur baby.
30:14I know, I was like, I didn't know this.
30:17I love that.
30:18That's a big one.
30:19We have a dog, and he became our son.
30:23The dog one is a waste of a f***ing answer,
30:26because it's my dog.
30:28It's my dog. It's our son.
30:30He'll always take care of my dog.
30:33What are you talking about?
30:35I was taking care of him for eight years
30:37before you came along.
30:38Our son. We share a son.
30:44Brandon, what did you write down?
30:45I trust that Julia will do what it takes
30:48to see our family prosper.
30:51You trust that she wants the best for your family.
30:53Is best for our family.
30:54She's always going to do that.
30:56That's a big one.
30:56I see it every day.
30:57I love that.
30:59What did you write down, Julia?
31:01I don't know.
31:01It's probably not so big, but I really
31:03trust him driving car, because I can relax,
31:07and I can go to sleep, and I can do work.
31:10That's actually huge.
31:11The big one.
31:11Safety.
31:12Safety, yes.
31:13Yeah, I feel safe with him.
31:15But he doesn't feel safe with me when I drive.
31:19Florian, what did you put?
31:22Everything, to be honest.
31:23Like, I don't have one.
31:24You wrote everything on there?
31:25Yeah.
31:26I trust her with everything.
31:27Listen, not many people can say it.
31:29You're saying, I trust her with all my heart.
31:31But if you could give us just one specific,
31:34give us one detail.
31:38One thing?
31:39You can think of one thing?
31:41With everything, like, we suggest you
31:44something, I trust her, you know?
31:46I'm going to take that and go with it,
31:47because I think that puts Stacey in a place.
31:49I'm serious.
31:50I'm not joking.
31:50I'm serious.
31:51Like, I trust her with everything.
31:52I love that.
31:53Stacey, what did you put?
31:56I trust Florian, because he's a protector at heart.
32:00And I really feel like he would always
32:05protect me and my family.
32:08I love that.
32:10Gino, what did you put?
32:12I trust that Jasmine loves me.
32:18I also can trust that Jasmine will brighten a room
32:22when she walks into it.
32:23Oh, I love that.
32:25I like that.
32:27Those are big ones, Gino.
32:30Natalie?
32:41OK.
32:50I'm hearing you say, I trust his decisions.
32:52I do.
32:57I know that Natalie was nuts, but really, girl,
33:00believing that Josh is a genius.
33:02Josh is not a genius.
33:04He's not.
33:05He's a dumbass.
33:06If Josh is a genius, then I'm Albert Einstein, Mary Curie.
33:14You know, I'm on top of the world, Nobel Prize Jasmine.
33:20So I want to talk a little bit about bandages.
33:24What are bandages?
33:25They cover up wounds.
33:27They help us heal.
33:29And that's what this is about.
33:30It's a way to establish trust within your relationship
33:34and to understand each other more clearly.
33:36So I would like all you couples to discuss amongst yourselves
33:41and write down what that looks like,
33:44picking one of your big issues.
33:46If your issue is trust, what's a bandage
33:48that we can do to work on trust?
33:50Don't shy away from this.
33:51Let's dive right in.
33:58Why are you looking at what everybody else is writing?
34:00Focus, focus.
34:01I'm in a hurt place right now.
34:04I need a bandage, because my heart is bleeding.
34:12So does everybody have their issue and their bandage?
34:16Yeah.
34:17OK.
34:17OK.
34:18OK.
34:19OK.
34:20OK.
34:21OK.
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34:22OK.
34:23OK.
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34:25OK.
34:25OK.
34:26OK.
34:27OK.
34:28OK.
34:29OK.
34:29And their bandage figured out for this exercise?
34:33We do.
34:34You do?
34:36Deci and Florian, what did you guys put down?
34:40What was your big issue?
34:41Yeah, what'd you put?
34:42Do you want to start?
34:43Yeah.
34:45Like, listen.
34:46Listening?
34:47Like, no one likes to stop.
34:48I keep talking.
34:50I need to finish the full talk in this, you know?
34:53We don't listen, because I think a lot of it
34:54has to stem from our resentment, our, you know,
34:58anger towards each other.
35:00You know, he talks with aggression.
35:02So what is the bandage here?
35:06I feel like it needs to start with baby steps, like tone.
35:10You know, simple things like, let's have eye contact.
35:13I think we need to go back to how we were when we first met.
35:19I'm working on the trust with him.
35:22You know, he's cheated in the past,
35:23and now I have new information, and I just
35:26feel like the band-aid just got ripped off me again.
35:28So it's not easy.
35:31Yeah, well, and I'm hearing you came up
35:33with several bandages, right?
35:34Yeah.
35:35With the listening, with the watching the tone,
35:37with the eye contact.
35:38So that was amazing.
35:39Yeah, and I feel like if we both implement that,
35:43I feel like we'll get a lot further.
35:45It's a good start.
35:46Yeah, definitely a good start.
35:47I like that.
35:48OK.
35:49So Josh and Natalie, how about you guys?
35:51What'd you write down?
35:54Don't disrespect each other.
35:58OK, so what's the bandage to that?
36:02Coming up with, like, a stopping point,
36:04like a word where, you know, both of us
36:06kind of take a moment and for ourselves
36:11and, like, gather our thoughts, like, where
36:13are we going with this?
36:15Am I hurting her?
36:16Is she hurting me?
36:17So.
36:18What's the word?
36:20It's infinity.
36:21Infinity.
36:25I know that she likes the word infinity.
36:29So if she likes it, she's more inclined to use it.
36:32So I come up with the word infinity.
36:35I believe that Josh and I, we share
36:39more than physical connection.
36:41We have spiritual connection.
36:44Infinity, it's a sign of death and reborn.
36:48It's a rebirth, actually, it's naked in itself.
36:52It's a very ancient sign, and wizards use
36:56the sign in their magic books.
36:58We need a safe word because things
37:01can get very intense to a point that, like, we
37:06won't be able to recover from.
37:08That's why we need a safe word.
37:13Is that what you both wrote down?
37:14Yes.
37:18Oh, what's that face?
37:19What do you, what did you write down, Natalie?
37:21Um, I am totally into our statement right now.
37:26Never disrespect each other.
37:33What's going through your mind?
37:34Something's going on here.
37:52What's, what's keeping us from just saying, Natalie,
37:56come on over and see my place?
37:58Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
38:09Gino, Jasmine, where are you guys with things?
38:12Most recently, she's spending nights out,
38:14and I don't know where she's at.
38:17Gino, if she was to share location services,
38:20would it be more likely that you would be
38:22in this open relationship if she was to give you that?
38:28Yes or no.
38:44What's keeping us from just saying, Natalie,
38:48come on over and see my place?
38:50Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
38:53Before that, like, it was tough.
38:57I made a commitment to Natalie, if we make it
38:59through this, you know, retreat, that I would take her
39:05to my house, and I stand by that.
39:06But although we're taking steps forward,
39:09you know, I'm still in the back of my mind
39:11thinking about, you know, how bad
39:13I was treated for the majority of being here.
39:16You know, I still have that worry that, you know,
39:19tomorrow could be a bad day, and all of this progress
39:21could be lost.
39:24They're saying, I need a little more time.
39:26I need to kind of trust in the process.
39:29Maybe four hours?
39:30Yeah.
39:31Yeah.
39:33I wonder, Josh, and I don't want to speak for you,
39:37but I'm wondering if she's more respectful,
39:39and you guys feel like you're respecting each other better,
39:42that that would open the door to access?
39:45Absolutely.
39:46OK.
39:46So one leads into the other.
39:48For sure.
39:49OK.
39:49So we can revisit this one.
39:52Brandon and Julia, how about you guys?
39:55What did you come up with as your big issue,
39:57and what's the bandage for you to help, you know,
40:00soothe that wound?
40:04I feel lied to.
40:07And I feel like that's where we're at a loss,
40:09because I feel like I need to see something,
40:12but I don't know.
40:14Something that shows me that she's going to do something
40:17to make me feel better.
40:21I want Julia to get a second opinion
40:23on her fertility issue.
40:28I have been blindsided by all the secrets and truths
40:33that are coming forward, and it's been way too much.
40:39And since I've got here, I've said,
40:41I've said, I want a family.
40:43And this is the step that we need to take in order
40:46to start that family.
40:48So that's what I want for my band-aid.
41:12You're tearing up.
41:14What's going through your brain?
41:16What are you feeling?
41:16Aw.
41:17That's the bandage you needed.
41:19Oh, it's just something I really dearly want, you know?
41:24So yeah, it's...
41:25Is this a good step?
41:26It's a fantastic step.
41:28Can you look at her and share that?
41:31What do you say to her?
41:32She's going to make me cry.
41:33I don't care.
41:34Look at her.
41:39Oh, you're so cute.
41:41You guys, this is a major moment.
41:43This is a huge breakthrough for you guys.
41:46So happy for you.
41:48Yay!
41:49Wow.
41:54I was extremely close to leaving the resort.
41:56I thought I was leaving the resort.
41:58So the fact that Julia could agree
42:00and get the second opinion
42:02and give me something that I've been fighting for
42:04that I really, really wanted,
42:06it just absolutely meant the world to me
42:09and shows me that Julia is willing to do what it takes,
42:13you know, maybe to make this relationship work.
42:15I'm going to the middle
42:17for trying to do everything within my power
42:19to save this relationship.
42:21We both have to know we are working hard
42:23and trying to save that marriage.
42:26You guys, this is huge.
42:28Good job.
42:29I hope you will be with me in these steps
42:31because I'm trying to do this two years and I can't.
42:36All the way.
42:37Yeah.
42:38This is exactly what the bandage tools are for.
42:43This is how you mend things that feel broken or are chaotic.
42:48Whatever the case may be,
42:50it's giving into the vulnerability of the situation
42:54and that's what you just did.
42:55I'm so proud of you guys.
42:59Sophie and Rob, what was your issue and what's your bandage?
43:04I think our biggest issue that has been our biggest issue
43:08and has stayed our biggest issue is communication,
43:12talking to each other in a healthy way
43:14and addressing things in a healthy way.
43:18So the band-aid is time and dated regular sit-down talks,
43:24basically to create a calm situation of communication
43:27before issues grow.
43:28Allowing us to have check-ins every three days, once a week,
43:32I think that's beautiful in general.
43:34Where are we?
43:35Where's this relationship?
43:36Let's check in, right?
43:38I think that's amazing for building trust.
43:42Gino, Jasmine, where are you guys with things?
43:46Well, for me, it's like right now and recently,
43:49most recently, she's spending nights out
43:51and I don't know where she's at.
43:54And she's at the gym for many more hours than I expect.
44:00And so the band-aid would be,
44:02I'd like to know Jasmine's location
44:04because I didn't agree to the open marriage yet.
44:09It's something I'm considering right now.
44:17It's so crazy that Gino's even considering this.
44:21Concept of an open marriage could work for some people.
44:25It bothers me though with these two
44:27because it's not, they're not those people.
44:30Jasmine is so jealous and Gino is very insecure
44:34because of Jasmine, but Gino's insecure.
44:37Gino's not gonna be okay
44:38with other guys sleeping with his wife.
44:42Gino, if you're saying, I'm getting where you are,
44:44that I'm just thinking about this.
44:46If she was to share location services,
44:49would it be more likely that you would be
44:51in this open relationship if she was to give you that?
44:54Yes or no?
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45:06Next time on 90 Day The Last Resort.
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45:13Hey guys.
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45:18Hello.
45:18This is our last resort.
45:20Hi.
45:21Hello, hello.
45:22Looking amazing.
45:23This is our final group therapy session.
45:27If you guys could, each of you come up with one word
45:30to describe kind of where you're at at this moment
45:32in your relationship and in your marriage.
45:34I think my word is confusion.
45:37Doesn't make me feel very good
45:38that Sophie's this confused at this point.
45:41I'm only confused about what the hell does she want?
45:46Josh, where are you with things?
45:48I'm scared of commitment with her.
45:52Why?
45:53Why am I not enough for him?
45:54If he loves me?
45:56Natalie.
45:58You okay?
45:59Do you have something to say?