The 7:15 Second Date Update - Too Much Too Soon
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00:00Ben has reached out to us today on the 715 Second Date Update.
00:03Sounds like a really nice guy.
00:0499.5 QIK and I feel like it was casual.
00:08I think it's a good thing for our first date.
00:09Keep it casual.
00:10That word was used quite a bit when describing the date.
00:14They went to have pizza but he said they didn't talk about going on a second date
00:18and I asked him if she was flirting back, if he felt like she liked him and he said absolutely.
00:23Well, we don't know why Chloe has not got back to Ben but that's what we do.
00:26We're going to try to call Chloe right now.
00:30Hello?
00:45Hi, is this Chloe?
00:47Yeah, this is Chloe.
00:49Hey, Chloe. Good morning to you, first of all.
00:51Good morning.
00:52And this is JR, Lana, and Kevin over here at 995QIK. How are you doing?
00:57Good morning.
00:58Hi.
01:00A great way to start your Friday, right? Getting a call from a radio station?
01:05Yeah. Did I win?
01:07Maybe.
01:08We'll find out. Maybe.
01:09Well, listen, we want to see if we can talk to you just for a couple of minutes actually about a date you recently went on.
01:15Do you have just a couple minutes of your time can we have this morning?
01:18About a date? Okay.
01:21All right. This is going to be on the air. We wanted to ask you about this guy, Ben. We heard you met on Match.com. You guys went to Anthony's, got some pizza. He described the date as very casual. He was very into you. He said, you never know what's going to show up on these dates. But he was super impressed and super taken back by you.
01:40So I guess he's reached out since the date, trying to set up another one. And he's got nothing from you. He wants to know what's going on.
01:47And he called you guys.
01:49Correct.
01:49He sure did.
01:52I mean, he definitely left out a huge part of the date.
01:56What happened?
01:57What happened was he brought his son on the date.
02:01Oh, how old's his son?
02:03A teenager.
02:0414, something like that.
02:07I mean.
02:08Really?
02:09Yeah. And it was super weird. And I've never had that happen before.
02:14And kid was sitting with us and like eating with us.
02:17And I just was completely unprepared for that.
02:20Well, what was the reason for bringing his kid?
02:22I mean, did he, are you like.
02:23Did you know that ahead of time?
02:25No, I didn't know that ahead of time.
02:26I would have liked to know that ahead of time.
02:28It was just so weird.
02:30He like stuck him in the corner of the booth with his headphones on and an iPad.
02:34And he just basically sat there, watched you guys have a date and eat.
02:39Yeah.
02:39Yeah. And, but then like, I don't know, at the end of it, he like took his headphones off
02:44and was asking me all these questions.
02:45And I, I felt like, I was like, oh my gosh, like what's going on here?
02:50Like.
02:50Do you think he was like interviewing you or something for like a job?
02:53Wait, the son was asking you questions?
02:55Yeah. He was like asking me what I do for work.
02:57And if I have kids and why don't I have kids and why am I not married?
03:02And like pretty personal questions for a kid to ask.
03:06Interesting.
03:07Do you think that maybe Ben told his son to do those things so he could find out some info?
03:14Yeah. Here's the good news, Lana.
03:15As you know, we have Ben on the phone.
03:17Chloe wanted to let you know that too.
03:19I want to bring him back on because yeah, this is a lot, Chloe.
03:21I can see how you can be taken back by that and a little broadsided.
03:24Ben.
03:26Yeah.
03:26Um, you know, maybe something you might want to share with us the first time we talked,
03:30you brought your son on the date maybe.
03:32Why did you bring your son?
03:34I did not think it was a big deal.
03:36Like I thought it was totally fine.
03:38You know, I wasn't trying to catch you off guard.
03:41Um, I didn't like, it's not like I didn't ask you to pay for the meal or anything.
03:45What is with you?
03:47You're catching me off guard on this phone call, on the date.
03:50Like this is, this is like a pattern with you.
03:53This is very strange.
03:55Well, Ben, you can see how you showing up, you have your son, which I think that's great
03:59that your son and your, and you are close, but you're trying to get to know somebody.
04:03Your son's right there.
04:05Like first date, you know, she's meeting both of you.
04:09Yeah.
04:09I mean, he's like, you know, he's obviously a large, like a huge part of my life.
04:13Which he should be.
04:13I want him to feel comfortable.
04:15I want him to meet who I'm seeing.
04:17But right away.
04:19Yeah.
04:19I mean, like, I just, I didn't think it was a problem.
04:22Like I said, it was casual.
04:23I just didn't think it was a big deal.
04:25How many dates before you met Paul's kids?
04:28Oh, almost a year.
04:29Really?
04:30Wow.
04:30Yeah.
04:31Would you introduce me to your kids?
04:33Would I introduce you?
04:33Of course I'd introduce you.
04:36I wouldn't let you babysit.
04:37No, I'm just kidding.
04:37No.
04:38Well, Ben, you can't see how this could be very, I guess the word is be a little forward
04:43on your part.
04:44With Chloe, you can't see that?
04:45I mean, I guess I could see how somebody could feel uncomfortable.
04:49But I mean, you know, he's a kid.
04:52I just didn't see what the big deal was.
04:54Like, I didn't have anything to hide.
04:56I just didn't think anything was going to go on that, like, he couldn't be around.
05:01I don't know.
05:01I just didn't.
05:03Yeah.
05:03But somebody asks you on a date, Ben.
05:06You think it's going to be a date?
05:08Yeah.
05:09I felt like I was babysitting almost.
05:11I mean, I don't know how you thought that, but.
05:14Well, even the conversation is going to be altered.
05:17Of course.
05:17If your kid is sitting right there.
05:18I mean, what you would have on a first date.
05:20Yeah.
05:20I mean, Ben, you can't necessarily talk about everything right there in front of your kid
05:24when you're trying to meet a girl, right?
05:26Yeah.
05:26I mean, I guess I could see how, like, maybe you'd be a little bit reluctant to say certain
05:30things on a date.
05:31But I mean, like I said, it was just a first date.
05:34Super casual.
05:35I just didn't think it was a big deal.
05:37Did you bring your son with on purpose to ask some questions maybe you weren't comfortable
05:43asking?
05:44No.
05:44No.
05:44Okay.
05:45He's just very inquisitive.
05:47And yeah, but no, I wasn't trying to plan questions for him to ask her.
05:52Well, Chloe, let me ask you a question.
05:53Listen, obviously, Ben, he does sound like a nice guy.
05:56I like the fact that he's close with his son.
05:58Probably not the best move to bring him on a first date.
06:00What if we just hit the reset button for you guys and you guys went, now he knows that
06:04was not the right move.
06:05What if you guys just went on a one-on-one date and you just kind of hit the reset button
06:08on this?
06:10Honestly, I'm even more weirded out now that we're doing this call and that was sprung
06:15on me.
06:16It's like, I don't know.
06:18I don't know.
06:19This is all very weird.
06:21Yeah.
06:22I don't blame her.
06:23I had to try.
06:25Sucks that you're writing me off just because of this like little thing, but you know,
06:29whatever.
06:29Little thing.
06:31Son.
06:31You know.
06:33Listen, Ben, it doesn't look like it's going to work out.
06:36Chloe, thank you for coming on with us today.
06:38Ben, I wish you luck in your dating life.
06:41And like I said, I think it's great that you're tight with your son.
06:43This may not have been the best situation to have you both in, but you live and learn
06:48and you got to move on.
06:51All right, guys.
06:51Thank you, Chloe.
06:52Thanks.