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00:0012 virgins have traveled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment the word
00:14virgin people see it as a joke it's quite upsetting I'm 23 still a virgin I feel like
00:22there's something wrong with me in a world where sex is everywhere my god terrified
00:29absolutely terrified the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins than ever being a
00:36young adult in this day and age it's difficult social media dating apps influential TV shows
00:42porn porn porn porn is everywhere are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each
00:48other now yeah this radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution oh yeah she's a miracle
00:57worker woohoo oh god yes overseen by a group of experts yeah I bet I like that ready to do
01:06anything to help Britain's virgins there's the clitters do you have any questions lose the one
01:14thing don't make you nervous they feel is holding them back I would love to have sex with you I do
01:21feel like there's a barrier between me and sex I want to lose my virginity it's now or never but when
01:29the moment arrives would you like to move to bed who will be ready I just don't want anyone to touch me
01:37in the first phase of the course the virgins tried to overcome the shame of sexual failure I
01:55didn't handle the rejection too well and started to express their sexual desires she pushed me down I'd
02:03probably do something for a sex I don't know one day Jason arrived on the island barely able to shake
02:09hands oh hello welcome thank you he panicked when things got touchy-feely feels too intimate a little
02:17overwhelming yeah yeah but Zach leapt ahead I would like to go all the way I would love to have sex with
02:26me and there were early signs of attraction I uh I think you're really pretty thank you do you think
02:33Ben likes me now things are set to escalate with the next phase of the course erotic touch nothing
02:44happens if you're not good at touching that's what creates all of the pleasure and sensation in our body
02:49and that's eventually what gets us to orgasm
02:55hello hello hello how's the sunburn it's the morning of day three on virgin island
03:16have you guys read your letters no okay what is this and time for the group to discover what's in
03:24store for them over the next two days oh god the next phase of the course is all about touch
03:32great I mean I'm fine with like friendly touch but as soon as it becomes like an intimate touch I
03:42think it'll be more much more difficult for me I feel sick biggest fear of touch sexual touching I've
03:52never done it like no that's not me God touch yeah that's really hard for me yeah nervous
04:04God knows what they have planned I have no idea probably just outright sex to start off with
04:13won't it
04:13for this group the idea of intimate touch is terrifying oh here we go here we go but now
04:22it's time to face their fears hello welcome good morning oh my god what are we doing why is there
04:30a bed in this room I imagine all of them will be quite anxious but you can't learn how to give and
04:36receive pleasure by just talking about it you have to practice
04:39so this first exercise today is called touching for your own pleasure one of the problems is if you touch
04:48being worried about the other person and thinking oh are they okay am I doing it right then you get
04:53all performance anxiety in your head until you actually feel the sensation of touching for your
04:59own pleasure you can't get to that next level it's like the first step right who's ready to
05:05touch for your own pleasure
05:08in my childhood with my family we were never huggers I hated being hugged I just never liked it never have I'm not an intimate person at all in my adult life never kissed anyone but I'd like to be the opposite
05:29I'll pop on there okay the end goal is to actually try and lose my virginity and find a girlfriend be more intimate can I put it off can I do this see if you can take a deep breath down into your belly and connect your body with your hands
05:45think of your hands think of your hands as like I'm gonna get pleasure out of her arms
05:52you know what I mean yeah for yourself I wank off your arm sorry I wank off your arm sorry
05:57see if you can breathe a little bit while you do it so that you actually feel the sensations
06:06for Jason just a few seconds of touches all he can handle but Celeste isn't finished with him yet
06:28when I'm touching you I just want you to see like let yourself take it yeah just feel it
06:36good yeah good on you mate honestly yeah it's great one cloud nine okay who's next
07:01encouraged by Jason's example the others get touchy too
07:06just explore the sensations in your hands
07:15and see if you can take a deep breath down into your belly and connect your body with your hands
07:24do you feel the difference there yes that was amazing good work
07:29good work the session seems to be going well so Celeste and Danielle decide to turn up the heat
07:38something that helps touch get even better is sexual energy
07:42I want to invite Ben and Holly to demonstrate 30 year old Ben is the oldest in the group and has
07:51had more opportunities to get intimate than any of the others over the last 10 years I've been on dates
07:57of about 40 different women mostly when I've met on just dating apps some it's just been one day
08:04up to and including an ex-girlfriend of mine who was probably about you know 15 plus dates
08:09we did sort of try making a couple of times but I wasn't comfortable doing stuff so we hit we hit a brick wall
08:14you know what I really needed someone to teach me this stuff
08:17I'm not very good with the energy mumbo-jumbo so you have to guide me through
08:22I'll help you okay just remember a moment that you felt kind of excited about someone
08:28or excited about an experience yeah you are holding a lot of tension in your mouth
08:33can you like open your mouth a little bit and then relax it yeah it's okay play with it you need
08:42to play with it it's okay let yourself feel it like oh here you go did you feel the squiver
08:49no okay I think it's just lack of experience and lack of success at reading sort of social signals
08:57there's probably occasions where I probably could have got physical or just kissed
09:00and they'd be they'd be absolutely fine but in fact they may have even wanted it but I didn't
09:04because I can't read the signs I don't want a woman to think I'm a creep or that I'm handsy
09:08because that's just not me just let yourself enjoy Holly
09:15fantastic you have very sexy energy right feels good okay you did it see if you wanna
09:25enjoy
09:29so Tom Taylor
09:33last up is Taylor who after coming out as bisexual at university has always found the idea of intimacy
09:40with anyone agonizing
09:42anytime I've had something nearing a sexual experience it's been so overwhelmingly negative
09:47but when it comes to it I freak out and I really don't wanna do it and I get that feeling in the
09:52in the pit of my stomach that makes me stop that's why i'm here is to like trying to work out what
09:58it is that's holding me back and how to move forward with it because it would be really nice
10:02to just be able to have what everyone else has okay so i'm going to invite you to feel into your
10:08desire tom this is really good keep it steady it's really good really good you keep it steady
10:22i'm gonna check what's with her okay if she can receive it great that's great let it look i'm
10:28gonna touch your belly okay just to help you out sweetie okay good let it shake it's let it cry
10:34you're safe now okay you know you're safe but your body forgot okay yeah so i'm here despite danielle's
10:44reassurance the exercise still proves too much for taylor yes you're doing great taylor
10:52yeah let it cry okay thank you really proud of you good work we love you taylor i don't know what's
11:10wrong with me for the group the workshop has thrown up very mixed emotions
11:26ted why was the looking thing so hard for you i think as soon as it becomes uh intimate sexual
11:34thing yeah it's shut down sounds ridiculous because we're only looking at each other but
11:39that's something i clearly need to work on i usually run the opposite way if anyone looks at me like that
11:43but if you're not crying you're not doing it right louise did you catch his blanking comment yeah
11:53i didn't do you know what i mean i didn't think okay i love that you haven't got a filter
11:58i feel absolutely fantastic i understand now why people like touch i'm not just saying that actually
12:04it genuinely does i can't really convey how good it feels now how did you find the whole thing as a
12:10um quite intense well i had i had lots of fun yeah when i was doing it i did feel like you'd feel
12:17the connection couldn't you really yeah yeah that's like new age mumbo jumbo slow nonsense
12:23i'm quite a logical person and it's just a lot of some of that stuff it just doesn't
12:27doesn't connect to me all right do you want me to like try it and see if you can feel me yeah
12:30all right despite his skepticism there are some things ben is open to trying hi see you guys a
12:37little bit especially if it's with charlotte you're open to receiving my energy
12:46yeah see you can feel it now what does it feel like to you
12:51the witching yeah many of the women here i find attractive i mean physically but there's something
13:01about charlotte i really like her and it's just i i like how we connect i mean i don't know if it's
13:06mutual or not but she's a very confident person and she's just got that thing about her i feel
13:12like i'm doing voyeurism just watching you enjoying that no i'm gonna walk away right sorry
13:33they're jumping in all right you don't have much respect to have for you right now
13:38it's day one of the touch phase of the course and after an intense morning a chance for the group
13:50to unwind who's your celebrity crush i like quite a lot of like female celebrities i like charlie
13:56theron she's just stunning i like henry cavill but not as superman i like him as the witcher
14:02i really like henry cavill because he's really nerdy as well
14:08what do you think when you hear virgin because for me shame failure undesirable weird yeah it's
14:18definitely mostly negative connotations yeah a lot of people call me a virgin and it does feel like
14:26an insult i know it's not it's a matter of it's a matter of fact but it does feel like an insult when
14:32someone says it here makes me feel weird i'm like a lot of people younger than me know more about sex
14:38than i do but um i'm hoping to change that jason's feelings about his lack of sexual experience
14:48haven't gone unnoticed by the experts any time there was an increase in intensity he would resort
14:54to humor so that he could distract himself from what he was feeling we're going to work on that today
15:00actually staying with the breath as sensations rise yeah receiving is a huge thing for him
15:07now the experts want to build jason's confidence
15:11and joy has a plan to help him with his horror of hugging
15:18hello again hey come on in thank you and have a seat oh excellent
15:24oh what is it that happens when you're in a hug it just goes weird like alien to me when i see
15:33people hugging just freaks me out yeah i don't know why so we want to work towards a hug that feels
15:39really good yeah so let's let's stand here because it's a little more even
15:45i'm gonna touch your arm first okay do you want it yeah go ahead
15:55and you feel me and you can put your hand on my arm yeah if you'd like yeah
16:05i feel sick no no no bad way i feel like in a good way like british slang yeah
16:09that's sick yeah as usual jason tries to mask his awkwardness with humor i'm quite robotic i feel
16:17like you're moving behind yourself at first yeah i just want you to receive okay so i can get a sense
16:24of what it feels like to be in this moment but joy perseveres yeah it's really nice
16:32before escalating intimacy can i come even closer if you want to yeah yeah like like that yeah you can
16:43move like that by just staying connected with your breath so you don't lose that sense of the moment
16:51you don't lose that sense of the moment yeah can i come even closer still okay i can get closer yeah okay
17:06i can touch your neck
17:15feels good
17:22would you like to do a hug why not let's do it yeah let's do it
17:36how is this yeah awesome yeah cool yeah
17:42thank you thank you see ya
17:52oh that was great after the session jason's confidence is sky high
18:00and that's not the only thing that's up what happened so i was standing like this
18:04because as much as i was like that i had a bone
18:07oh that's really good dude i'm getting there i'm getting there
18:15i'm in a really great mood i feel like i'm glowing
18:17i didn't think i'd do this i'm really proud of myself on this page i'll be a sex god
18:22i mean yeah yeah we're gonna leave here absolutely professionally trained sex demon
18:28while jason's conquering new heights i haven't really gotten much out of mind yet i just feel
18:35like i'm letting the team down taylor's still struggling after crying in this morning's workshop
18:41the experts feel there may be more to taylor's tears than meets the eye
18:46even though she was being emotional she wasn't actually letting go and going into her emotion
18:51i feel like she's hiding and that's probably been a survival tactic that has worked really well
18:57for her yeah she is so scared
19:03danielle wants to discover what makes taylor so anxious about intimacy
19:12so how do you feel with guys as opposed to women or girls they're a lot scarier
19:18do you ever see like someone very chiseled and you're like i just want to touch that muscle
19:22i don't know i don't know i don't think so i like hair like i'm always like i want to touch people's
19:28hair like that interests me because it's soft but i'm not like i don't want to touch muscle i don't i
19:33don't prefer it when i was in secondary school i felt the shift into realizing that maybe i wasn't
19:41exactly the same as all the girls but being gay was like the worst thing so while i'm still in the
19:47process of like working out what i want all of these opportunities are passing me by it just makes
19:52me feel a bit a bit rubbish
19:58do you have women lovers or i had one really negative experience she got annoyed at me that
20:05i wasn't enjoying myself she did stop but she seemed really disappointed and she was like upset with me
20:09and it kind of ruined that friendship yeah i don't see myself as desirable
20:18right because i am a lot what are you oh now we're getting there my love okay so there's a part
20:27of you that feels that people wouldn't want to be with you yeah yeah i get told a lot the time that
20:36i'm loud and i'm tall and i'm i take up a lot of space and yeah and that's what makes you so special and
20:46beautiful
20:50oh baby
20:57your feelings are so great sweetheart
21:04just talking about my experiences always makes me upset but i've had quite a few negative experiences
21:10of course those are the ones that i need to talk about for this to work thank you yeah but i've had
21:17i've had a breakthrough i think thank you very much bye i left happier then i went in
21:25and forward is always good isn't it so as long as i'm going forward i'm happy
21:31you're nervous no no i mean other than falling off the cliff yes
21:42it's late afternoon on virgin island jesus yeah this is quite steep and celeste and danielle have
21:49hatched a plan to push the group further all right let's get a mat down we want them to start
21:54just getting comfortable with any kind of touch massage is something that a lot of people have
21:59experienced i'm hoping maybe they'll take off a piece of clothing to start to feel more relaxed
22:03around touch and maybe you know eventually nudity are you taking your cup off or go on i'll like
22:10lift it up for you through massage the experts can assess how comfortable the group are with exposing
22:16their bodies a little bit yeah and touching each other for pleasure you're very good at this thank you
22:26thank you they have my skills all of them end with a z
22:31what did you learn it my family does them we grew up giving each other massages you're shaking a bit
22:37you sure it's all right no no i'm fine no i'm fine okay i mean i'm actually sure you're like this
22:42relax relax yeah i need to be more loosey-goosey while uptight ben struggles to relax
22:48i'll whack this off the experts are keen for jason to build on his growing confidence around touch with
22:55the island's most outspoken virgin charlotte how's this it's fine yeah it just feels i don't know
23:03weird but in a nice way why do you use these horrible stretch marks i don't know all right
23:10well it's just it looks painful it looks like you just see my ass it's more on my ass okay
23:15i'm bored now yeah i'm bored now all right which arm first this one this one yes okay okay why are
23:29you focused on one area you need to go up see okay do you want me to show you no no no let's go i'll put
23:35more oil on like it on for jason intimacy with another member of the group is proving tougher than
23:42with an expert see more thumb more movement you need to be doing the whole like like that how about
23:49that like that like it's all of it jesus christ what are you doing it's like wanking up your arm like that
23:55like that's how you do it but slower okay now i definitely want you to stop
24:06how was the monsieur oh
24:14so did you not like it that was a disaster i looked off my shirt and everything
24:18you go stretch mark all right looking like man maybe not being berated a lot would have felt nice
24:31i've always hated my body my especially my back with the stretch marks i know it's a little thing
24:36but for me it's quite big although jason's suffering from over exposure to charlotte is yours yes
24:46you've already tried them on ben can't get enough of her
24:54i always find i end up getting very steep in the summer because of the hay fever tablets i take
24:59i'm sorry i always get very steep in the summer so the hay fever tablets
25:03because they're drowsy ones the big question now is is the feeling mutual
25:08how many songs you can get there anyway oh like i have like a i have a thousand and seventy
25:14pretty good yeah
25:19i mean it's so great that we've like gotten to know each other and that we can you know we feel
25:24comfortable around each other but i'm not interested
25:28and so it's going to be tricky you know this is my friend this is someone i'm going to have breakfast
25:36with tomorrow and i'm going to have to be cruel to be kind and tell him that i'm not interested
25:58it's day two of the touch phase and the sessions are about to intensify
26:15really in order to have amazing sex you need to touch you won't be able to make any moves you won't
26:21be able to seduce someone if you're feeling anxious and worried that everything that you're doing is
26:25wrong a lot of people they're holding back all of those animal instincts they just need to open up
26:33i think it's one of those things where you've got to just keep on going and try and get yourself to
26:38the next step ideally without crying but we'll see i'm dreading the group activity it's getting more
26:46intimate with touch i feel nervous after yesterday's massage catastrophe
26:51yeah i'm not sure what would happen next for me um just being desired that's a key thing for me
26:56that's one of my sort of issues is you know being wanted and desired and i don't think i've had
27:00that a lot but um just you know see what happens and uh go with it i guess
27:04yeah it's getting fast on the background yes my plan exactly hello welcome back
27:15welcome back hello hi hi oh god here's our therapist
27:19so today we're going to go much deeper into touch and work on disinhibition and that means letting
27:34out a little bit more of your wildness a little bit more of your inner animal oh god we are wired for
27:41sex right we're wired to go after it and yet society says shame shame shame it was you know and we shut
27:47down and the animal game helps people feel the passion and desire in their body
27:54so i know tom that you've taken some acting classes so i'm wondering if you would be willing
28:00to demo with me yeah sure so let's get on our hands and knees why don't you just just start to
28:09feel your senses we close our eyes and we start to feel this animal inside of us and we let that animal
28:16go after the other person actually letting it move letting it out in our body
28:31so tom may be finding his wild side
28:44but for the rest of the group
28:45it's too much to bear
28:59it was very jungle book and i was feeling very downton abbey
29:24and i was like it's lovely like they're really enjoying it but also
29:31so someone want to try it
29:40someone wants maybe 80 to try it
29:43charlotte yeah i'll do it amazing
30:05you can change your mind yeah i wouldn't yeah i wouldn't do it yeah okay
30:15do you want to do it do you want me to do it okay
30:20okay yeah
30:24i've just always felt like i'm ugly and repulsive in some way and i know that objectively i'm not
30:28but i was bullied in school and i think the dating experience sort of just saying reinforce that i'm
30:34just not that good looking why would any girl be interested in me so i struggle to to sort of
30:40initiate uh you know contact or intimacy and i find a place on the rug your life is awkward
30:49unfortunately and you simply you know you just move on you know that's that's how that's how it goes
30:54and i'm just not very good at that start to notice that there's another animal here with you
31:04uh
31:10uh
31:15oh
31:23uh
31:26men are expected to make that first move and i think for guys like me who just struggle with that
31:31making the move and reading the signs it's very hard
31:36uh
31:45oh
31:48that's my happy heart
31:50this is so hot
31:51did you feel any arousal i'm curious yeah i think some yeah yes
32:07acting like a zoo animal that was not for me oh god that was just it was a bit rough that was cringe
32:13i found interesting them it's bringing up saying oh you've done drama so you've done this sort of
32:17stuff like i'm not sure i've gone quite that far in drama to be fair
32:22how did you feel a bit at all i flipped our instructor
32:27i noticed like i could hear people like talking and giggling that's oh you know and i had to kind of
32:32try to block that out yeah it was like watching a porno i felt like a proper pervert
32:37were you getting turned on no i was like i thought you'd be one of the first ones up jason
32:41no i absolutely hated that in the back of my head i had a bit of trepidation about a bit of fear
32:48about it so i didn't want to do that jason's massage experience has set him back and the
32:55experts have sense that something's changed jason he's been so gung-ho and i thought he would be
33:00gung-ho today but he was way more reserved we did in our session uh have very close body on body
33:08but he wasn't able to then move the energy into something more sexual okay so maybe i can build on
33:15that yeah celeste decides jason needs to put his massage fiasco behind him in a one-on-one session
33:22to boost his sexual self-belief the only person if i had sexual experience with was my right hand
33:29i'd love to have more confidence i'd love to be able to be intimate yeah that's my goal
33:34to reach his goal celeste wants to try a different approach to unleash his inner animal
33:41so we had the animal game and the touching we did
33:45seemed like the animal game was not doing my cup of tea no so i was thinking maybe trying some
33:50different connection positions to build confidence yeah maybe you like lying down and us like touching
33:57each other i'm here to try new things try yeah well let's try it so you can lie down like here
34:02on my back or yeah lie down on your back like with your head down there i'm gonna like move in here
34:08maybe i'll take off my glasses see if you can like just connect with your sexy energy and you if you feel
34:17an urge to touch back feel free okay and there's like a little bit of intensity that we're going to
34:24kind of try to build between us
34:26and you can touch i can't touch you right you can
34:52and you can see if you can take your energy seriously now and look at me like i want to
35:14fuck you kind of
35:23So good.
35:30So good.
35:31So good.
35:32So good.
35:34So good.
35:37Do you need a little break or do you need a little break?
35:59Okay.
36:01Amazing.
36:07A lot different than hugging.
36:17That is your inner animal.
36:19When you take your desire seriously, it's very compelling.
36:25Whoa.
36:26Whoa.
36:27Okay.
36:28I'll see you soon.
36:29Yeah.
36:30See you soon.
36:31Have a lovely day.
36:32You too.
36:33Bye.
36:37I'm feeling incredible.
36:40Absolutely incredible.
36:41She's a miracle worker.
36:43I was a virgin.
36:44Well, I am a virgin still.
36:45But I'm like a different virgin there.
36:47I'm closer to losing him.
36:50Ben.
36:51How'd it go?
36:52I kissed her on her cheeks.
36:54You're a cloud nine, are you?
36:56I'm lying down, yeah?
36:57And I'm there cupping her breasts, squeezing her.
37:00How did that feel?
37:02Great.
37:03I feel like I'm glowing, like woohoo.
37:05I feel like Jason is a superstar.
37:07I cannot believe how much he has blossomed today.
37:12It is insane.
37:14He brought his sexual energy, eye contact.
37:18He really got what sex is all about.
37:21He danced in.
37:22I feel like we're like my top house, everything.
37:27Oh, yeah.
37:28Oh, I saw a banana.
37:29The touch phase of the course is drawing to a close.
37:32Oh, whipped cream, chocolate.
37:33Oh, that's strawberry laces.
37:34Do you like strawberry laces?
37:35Oh, it's not a banana.
37:39The touch phase of the course is drawing to a close.
37:42Ooh, whipped cream, chocolate.
37:44Oh, that's strawberry laces. Do you like strawberry laces?
37:46I do like strawberry laces, yeah.
37:47OK.
37:48And the group have been served up a tasty exercise.
37:51Smallish bite. I'm not going to put it in too much.
37:53There's something very sensual about feeding each other.
37:57You know, the experience of putting food into someone's mouth,
38:00especially if you deal with, like, a little bit of flirtatiousness.
38:02When you laugh, I know where your face is, and I can slap it.
38:09Technically, this will be the first act of penetration,
38:12so I'm very curious how they put objects inside one another.
38:18So you put the whole strawberry in?
38:21Open wide.
38:22I'm not opening my mouth wide.
38:24You can trust me. You can trust me.
38:26Many of the group are throwing themselves in.
38:29You dropped it, man.
38:30Have you ever fed someone before?
38:33No.
38:34No.
38:34You're the first person.
38:35But not everyone is feeling fruity.
38:38I feel like this is probably not the most romantic.
38:43No.
38:44No.
38:47So far on the course, it's Ben and Taylor who are holding back the most,
38:52so the experts want to see if they can help, starting with Ben.
38:56The animal game was really hard for Ben.
38:59When he volunteered to help out Charlotte and she said no, that she didn't want that, he was very sad.
39:06Yeah.
39:06He needs to understand rejection and, like, how you survive that as a man dating women.
39:12After Celeste's breakthrough with Jason, she wants to help Ben find his sexy side.
39:18But spontaneity is not his strong point.
39:21I'm quite a logical person.
39:22I like to think things like to plan for things.
39:24Probably the best example, and this is going to sound quite sad, but it's true.
39:28I've got a spreadsheet on my PC at home of just, like, every date I've been on.
39:31I see dating in the same way a football manager would see their team.
39:35I like to analyse things and see what I can do better.
39:40So can Ben Ditchie's spreadsheet approach to sex with some hands-on practice?
39:45I think if you learn how to hold a little bit more flirtatious energy, like, I'm going
39:54to do it now with you for a second, okay, and show you what I mean, like, I'm really enjoying
40:00being here with you.
40:02That's what I would do to them.
40:03Yeah.
40:04So as you talk to me, just at some point when you're talking, give me a touch while you're
40:09talking.
40:10I mean, this is quite crude, but you are sort of my type, so it's sort of like, yeah.
40:14That's not crude, that's a compliment.
40:16I mean, you're quite attractive, so I mean, you know.
40:18I usually go for the hair, actually, sometimes.
40:20Yeah?
40:21Yeah, so it's sort of like, sort of do that, and yeah, it's, um...
40:24That's actually my total weakness.
40:27Really?
40:27Yeah, but I like it really, really slow, like...
40:37And I feel, like, very precious.
40:39Yeah.
40:40Yeah.
40:41So, like...
40:44And I think even if you go a little bit slower, so then it feels more, like, sensual.
40:55Mm-hmm.
40:57Mm-hmm.
40:58I do feel tingly when you do that.
41:03Well, um, well, maybe I'm better than I thought I was, but...
41:05Mm-hmm.
41:06Uh, you know, it's not something I have sort of conscious control over, just sort of, you know.
41:11That's what's good about it, is I feel like you're touching me just because you desire me, and you want to touch me, not like you're thinking about it.
41:18And that's hot.
41:20No.
41:20By losing himself in the moment, Ben's gaining a flair for the physical.
41:27If you just want to, like, come in and, like, kiss me on the cheek, you don't have to.
41:31Mm-hmm.
41:31But you can.
41:34Yeah.
41:38Oh, my goodness.
41:39What?
41:41Look at you.
41:44Mm-hmm.
41:45Makes me want to touch you back.
41:48Mm-hmm.
41:48You don't realise how much of a confidence booster this is.
42:02So now I'm doing it good.
42:05It's really great.
42:07You're getting better every time.
42:13Mm.
42:13It's baby steps, but Ben's session has been a success.
42:22Now the experts want to get to the bottom of what's troubling Taylor.
42:27Farthest I've ever gone with a boy is met a nice guy.
42:33He was very attractive and very lovely.
42:35Invited him back, and I was like, right, you can do this.
42:38I'd convinced myself I was going to lose my virginity.
42:41But I freaked out, hit that invisible barrier, and I was just like,
42:46no, I can't do it, that's it, I can, and he left.
42:49And then I just felt so bad and disappointed in myself,
42:52and, like, I'd let him down, cos I couldn't follow through.
42:57To clarify her thinking, the experts want to pair her
43:01with male surrogate partner therapist Andre.
43:03So, my role in this is to basically stand in as what could be
43:11a potential partner or a potential lover.
43:15And I'm here to support you through the emotion,
43:17the communication, transparency.
43:20Surrogate partners help by forming a therapeutic relationship,
43:23supported by a clinical therapist.
43:25I will leave the two of you to enjoy your time together.
43:30Thank you very much.
43:31I'll see you soon.
43:32Take care.
43:34Mm-hmm.
43:41Hmm.
43:42I'm just scared.
43:44You're sorry?
43:46It's okay.
43:47I've got a lot of emotions about this whole thing,
43:49and they're kind of trickling into everything.
43:51There's nothing to be sorry about in displaying emotion.
43:57So, what could potentially be, like,
44:01a desired, like, goal or outcome?
44:03Less of this.
44:04Okay.
44:05Then we're on the right track.
44:07Step on less of this.
44:08And just feeling more comfortable, like,
44:10in a situation where...
44:12I feel like any time it comes to a situation, sorry,
44:16where, like, sex is on the table,
44:19I freeze up and I panic.
44:20I just don't want anyone to touch me
44:23or anything like that,
44:24because I just feel wrong.
44:27Mm-hmm.
44:27Okay.
44:29Well, that is exactly why I'm here,
44:32and we can practice with one another.
44:38We can explore the things
44:40that you came here to explore.
44:44Oh, God.
44:45I just want to see how you're feeling.
44:54It feels like there's, like, a knot in my throat.
44:58So, it's generally, like, uncomfortable kind of a feeling.
45:02Okay.
45:03Is there anything I can provide for you?
45:05Do you like a hug?
45:07Oh, thank you.
45:08Okay.
45:08The therapy that was explained to me terrifies me
45:16down to the very depths of my cot.
45:18Well, and if you'd like,
45:19you're welcome to head on now whenever you're ready.
45:22Okay, thank you very much.
45:24You're very welcome.
45:24I don't know if I've made any actual progress,
45:28because I just kind of get a bit weepy.
45:31I really liked Andre, and he was really lovely,
45:34and I'd love to be his friend,
45:35but I'm trying to work out why I'm so panicked.
45:39I think it scares me, the fact that he's a man.
45:47Sorry.
45:49I just have one minute.
45:51I think I'm upset about more things than I've got on.
46:00Next time...
46:01Ah!
46:02..Jason gets back in the groove.
46:04I just feel the pleasure.
46:06I'm a bummer.
46:08..Taylor tries a fresh approach.
46:10I just feel such a relief to not feel scared at all.
46:13This is my body.
46:15And Emma reveals a secret.
46:17Because you're so stronger than you think,
46:19and why is it that you know?
46:21As Ireland dates...
46:24Does that make you nervous?
46:25A little bit.
46:26..Hotter.
46:27..I think it's a good idea.
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