Newlyweds just don't feel the love, they practice it, too

The Manila Times

Newlyweds just don't feel the love, they practice it, too  Franz and Jessa Aceituna, a newlywed couple who tied the knot in November 2024. celebrate their love and strengthen their bond through 'Meet Time.' It is a heart-to-heart session every 30th of the month when they reflect on the past month's events, share insights and recalibrate their goals as partners. Franz and Jessa prove that love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a practice, and their story is inspiring.  Subscribe to The Manila Times Channel - https://tmt.ph/YTSubscribe   Visit our website at https://www.manilatimes.net   Subscribe to Business Franchise Guru: https://www.youtube.com/@BusinessFranchiseGuru   Follow us:  Facebook - https://tmt.ph/facebook  Instagram - https://tmt.ph/instagram  Twitter - https://tmt.ph/twitter  DailyMotion - https://tmt.ph/dailymotion    Subscribe to our Digital Edition - https://tmt.ph/digital  Sign up to our newsletters: https://tmt.ph/newsletters  Check out our Podcasts:  Spotify - https://tmt.ph/spotify  Apple Podcasts - https://tmt.ph/applepodcasts  Amazon Music - https://tmt.ph/amazonmusic  Deezer: https://tmt.ph/deezer  Stitcher: https://tmt.ph/stitcher Tune In: https://tmt.ph/tunein   #TheManilaTimes  #philippines #entrepreneur

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00:00Good morning, good afternoon, this is Buts Bartholomew of the

00:29business mentor talks over at Manila Times. You know what? We have a newly

00:36married couple. Naku, ganda nito. The sweetest couple so far. They got married

00:43in November 2024 and now it's already 2025 and I'm sure such a sweet thing. But

00:51they have interesting jobs. One is flying and one is into behavioral therapy. So

01:00let's introduce each other. Prance and Jessa. Prance, good morning to you and

01:08Jessa. Good morning. Yes, good morning. It's an honor to be here. Prance, I understand you are a

01:18commercial pilot. How did you ever become one and how is the training of becoming a pilot anyway?

01:27Training to be a pilot. Well, it started when I was in third year college. I met a pilot and he

01:37inspired me to be one. Actually, our original plan was to be a doctor. But when I met him,

01:44nagbago po yung isip ko. I got more interested po in that industry. And so after college, I looked

01:53for flying schools to enroll in. And that was it. Doon na po nagungkisa. It took me two years to

02:02finish flying school. And fortunately after that, may hiring po in the airlines and I passed all

02:10these exams and simulator trainings and became an airline pilot. Year twenty-sixteen. So I've

02:19been flying po for eight years now. Oh, so you're you're now flying for Philippine Airlines, no?

02:25Yes. The flag carrier. And you are anong position mo ngayon as a pilot? Currently flying po as a

02:34second officer. And what it what a second officer does is yun po yung starting position that mainly

02:42assists the primary pilots which are the captain and the co-pilot or first officer. And as of now

02:49currently po ako I just I recently got an offer for a promotion for the co-pilot position which

02:56would be starting hopefully by February or March depending po sa requirement ng company.

03:04Wow. So congratulations. A lot of people are always fascinated about being a pilot. What

03:13is there? Ano bang fascination? Ikaw na-influence ka ng isang piloto na nakilala mo nung college.

03:21What really attracted for that profession, Frans? Well, I guess po the first thing that

03:29made me attracted to this profession is mainly the freedom. Freedom po to just be up in the air,

03:37seeing the views. Ang gaganda po talaga nang nakikita namin sa cockpit. Each and every flight

03:44as well as the travels, you get to travel to many places for free. And yes po, very rewarding

03:53profession. The adrenaline. He loves the adrenaline. The rush. But hindi ba mahirap mag-aral

04:04as pilot? I mean you start in a flying school, right? Yes po. Well, in the trainings would take

04:13no more than two years. But lahat po ng mga subjects doon is very, what's the word,

04:23not too hard. May mga weather, may konting math lang. So hindi naman po siya ganun.

04:29So may konting math ah? Kasi mayroon mga allergic sa math eh.

04:34Okay. May konting calculator lang po sir. But it's all doable.

04:40But is it something that you love doing? You wanted to become a doctor, right? You're aiming,

04:48nagpre-med ka noon I'm sure, the third year mo. Yes po.

04:53And all of a sudden the shift. Was it difficult to make the shift or especially with your parents

05:00knowing that nagkaroon ka nang biglang lumipad in place na nagkagamot?

05:05Yes po sir. After college, hindi ko pa po actually sinabi agad.

05:10But napansin po ng mom ko na parang nagkakaroon ako ng doubts when it comes to pursuing medicine.

05:18But the shift po is from starting from scratch again was very difficult. But

05:27it made me learn to adapt very efficiently. And so yeah, hindi naman po ganun kahirap.

05:35So everything starts with the passion, no? Yung you're happy with it. But again,

05:41also the benefits of seeing how everything looks from the sky down, diba? So now that,

05:49and then you're going up the ladder, no? The ladder of your profession. Ano bang hazards of

05:57being a pilot? Number one is, ano bang nakikita mong hazards sa inyong work?

06:02There are countless of hazards po eh. But if I can enumerate a few, there can be some technical

06:11like maintenance, hindi po nacheck ng ayos yung plane. There can be weather which is very

06:17hazardous sa mga turbulence. As well as yung mga kawork din. Sometimes if hindi po well prepared

06:28there can be hazards as well. Yung po. That's the only name of few.

06:34What about, what about your jet lag? How do you handle that? How do you handle jet lag, friends?

06:42We always make sure po na we are well rested whenever we have this rest.

06:48Requirement po kasi din magpahinga. But jet lag, pagka sa flight naman po nag-alternate kami to

06:56have this called controlled rest. Pagka long, if it's too long, you get to have a few minutes of

07:03short naps but alternate lang po. So you started, you started flying domestic, is it? After your,

07:11after your, you became a pilot in Philippine Airlines. You started domestic as well?

07:17No sir. Actually nag-start po ako agad as international. Flying to the United States and

07:24Canada. Wow ah. That's a big jump ah. Ang alam ko nung araw eh. Yung iba nagsisimula muna sa domestic

07:31diba? Before you go up diba? When it comes to the Philippine Airlines, the starting position of

07:37second officer, they are given the routes for long-haul flights which can be US, Canada,

07:47Middle East, and Australia. And dun po ako na-assign sa US and Canada.

07:54So what was your feeling on your first flight, friends? How did you feel?

08:04It was a dream come true. To be honest, I felt very happy and overwhelmed

08:10with everything that's going on. It's like something it's hard to explain po.

08:17Tumbaga. But yung hard to explain, let's now go to you getting married to Jessa. It's something

08:24also that you cannot explain, I'm sure. Friends and Jessa, how did you, you know,

08:31getting married as a young couple, how does it feel now to be married? A pilot and a behavioral

08:38therapist, paano yan? Paano kayo nagsasama ngayon? Paano kayo nagjigil? Jessa?

08:46Actually po, being married really makes us very, very happy and blessed. Kasi when we were dating,

08:53both of us were very motivated to do a lot more in life. So yung plans and dreams po namin together,

09:01we make sure na it's synchronized and nagkakaintindihan po kami. So nung kinasal na po kami,

09:07parang, ah, eto na, mangyayari na yung mga plans natin kasi kasal na tayo. And then yun po,

09:13more of communication and more of understanding of each other kasi po siya usually he's out of

09:20the country every now and then. Four days he's flying and then rest nyo lang po sometimes is two

09:27days. So yun po, at his end, he makes sure din po na lagi kami nagkakommunicate and we are still

09:35in the path na we really dreamt of. So another sacrifice of him po kasi he makes sure na yung

09:41body clock po niya is Philippine time. So siya po yung sumasabay sa akin, hindi ako yung sumasabay

09:46sa kanya. Challenging yan, Franz, ha? Your body clock is Philippine time and your Australia or

09:53Canada time. Yes, sir. I will be awake in the middle of the night. And kaya ako po siya ginagawa,

10:00to be honest, para po hindi ganun kahirap sa pagbalik ng Pilipinas,

10:05you wouldn't feel as drained as if you adjust always sa mga countries na pinupuntahan po.

10:12I cannot imagine. Tulog ka si Jessa, gising. Paano yan? Pagtulog naman si Jessa, gising ka

10:18naman. I think what you're saying, Jessa, you're able to maintain that communication.

10:25And being a behavioral therapist, I'm sure you're able to apply that

10:29in your in your in your married life, right? Yes, po. That's what she always say.

10:34Lagi po kaming naaasar na, oh si Franz, behavioral therapist yung wife. Behave na behave yan.

10:47Oo nga, no? Siguro sabi niya, ba talaga you're married to each other. You found each other,

10:52in other words, diba? But as a young couple now in this age of technology, and again,

10:59a lot of world changes, ano ang mga nasa plans ninyo? You're both millennials. What are your

11:06plans for family, for your work, lalo na si Jessa being one of the 105 therapists, behavioral

11:16therapist, ano bang plano nyo ngayon nasa isip nyo? You're not thinking of only for yourself,

11:22but you're one, no? You're already one. Yes, po, Sir Butch. One of our very top priority po is to

11:31create a family na po, Sir Butch. And what goes with that is our other plans such as maggawa po

11:38kami ng clinic po, mag-umpisa po kami ng clinic dito sa province and as well as probably din sa

11:45Manila. And when it comes to my profession naman po, I'll just continue what I'm doing,

11:51helping and supporting my lovely wife. Okay. Top priority with our plans, Sir Butch.

11:59Kumbaga, you're both flying towards your goal, right? Rather than flying by yourself, no? So

12:06yan ang importante doon. So Jessa siguro, I mean kasi maraming mga kopos na ganyan. Misan

12:13taliwas ang kanilang profession. They cannot see, di ba? That's normal, no? Si Franz, the future

12:23captain, di ba? Eto naman si Jessa, behavioral. Paano magtatampo, di ba? Minsan it boils down

12:31to miscommunication, di ba? For example, you keep working, you're also stressed, Jessa.

12:38Si Franz naman is also stressed but he has to have a good condition kasi of his profession,

12:44di ba? So I think that's a key eh. Yan ang importante, no? Getting to know each other,

12:49di ba? Yes. And ano po, when we started dating, we both know what we wanted po kasi.

12:57We're more on the traditional side po kasi na si husband will be the provider

13:05and the wife will be the follower. And ngayon po kasi we noticed na siyempre millennials,

13:13we have our own plans, they want to be so independent. Pero ako po kasi I'm, I think I'm

13:19like my mom. I'm very submissive to my husband na if he sets a plan na ito ang gagawin natin,

13:26I would listen and believe in him and support na lang po yun. For example, he's also supporting

13:32me in my plans but he also secure me na oh, pag na-stress ka dyan, priority natin yung family mo,

13:40ay family natin, magbe-baby, ito yung kailangan gawin. You have to pause. Kahit sinasabi ko po,

13:47ito talaga yung gusto kong gawin eh. Pero sasabihin niya, eh kung masestress ka lang dyan,

13:52tignan muna natin kung anong priority. Which I listen naman po sa kanya na tama naman po eh.

13:58Oo, kasi importante yan eh. Papano kung let's say like you're on your way to becoming a mother

14:05at si, lalong-lalong na the first two months no? Naku eh, si Franz eh, at lalong-lalong na pag

14:11lumabas na ang baby, papano si Franz naman matutulog? Okay, alaga, nagpapalit ng diaper.

14:19Do you see yourself like that Franz and you have a flight the following day? How do you,

14:23how do you, how can you manage that Franz? Yeah, actually sir I'm very excited to be

14:29in that stage na rin po. But of course hindi po mawawala yung ganon na may buyatan na pag,

14:36especially the first two months. But narinig ko na rin po with the advice of my fellow

14:42pilots. I always ask their advice kasi they've been there. Always to just take it slow,

14:48have all the resources that you can get, especially with my in-laws or my parents as

14:54well. They can also give, provide help for us when the time comes. Oo, kasi di ba kayo mga piloto

15:03kayo eh, but nasa condition kayo eh di ba? I mean you cannot just be, you cannot be in a, kasi

15:08papano you're the ones managing lives no? Hundreds and lives no? So importante yan no? So in

15:16psychological mode dapat nandun. Hindi mo iniisip yung pamilya mo and all of a sudden here you are

15:23carrying out your profession. So are you now preparing for your financial investment? Yan,

15:34you're now earning but you are in the stage of planning. Sabi nga, financial literacy,

15:43where are you now in terms of that? It comes po with the financial planning. We both have

15:56a synchronized plan na, that would help us provide for our future. We have these accounts

16:04separated na po, which is for our plan for the clinic, plan for our future family,

16:12and we also have an emergency fund. And we're very confident about it Sir Butz kasi,

16:18aside from being very blessed to our profession, pares po kasi kami talaga na ipon muna, ipon muna,

16:26and we know what's our priority. Hindi lang po, just because we have this money, we're gonna buy

16:32whatever we want. Lagi po kaming prioritize na, ah hindi, makakatipid tayo pag ginito,

16:38gagasusin kasi natin to in the future pag ginito. So both of us po talaga, we're really saving po

16:44for the future. And yun po, very talagang inaaral po namin together. Actually meron po kaming meeting

16:52time every 30th of the month. Now we talk about everything. Maganda yung sinabi mo,

17:00ano sabi mo every 30th may meeting kayo? Anong pinag-meeting kayo?

17:10We get to talagang hang out as best friends po, nag-chichikahan about our families,

17:18about ourselves, about our days. And we also talk about if may na change plan po ba,

17:25magkano yung naipon, magkano yung nagastos. We also talk about our emotions too,

17:31and our family din. Involved din to yung siblings namin and parents namin.

17:37We make sure po, Sir Butch, that we reflect on what happened in the last month when it came,

17:42when it comes to our relationship, our families, our finances, spiritually as well, Sir Butch.

17:51Hmm. Alam mo, that's very deep ha. Yung inside sinyo, that's very deep. And I really,

17:57I'm happy that you have shared this. Because really, it's not just getting married for the

18:02sake of, you know, being together. But knowing the path, diba? Lalo na yung may meron kayong

18:08meeting, no? Every 30th to discuss. Kumbaga, looking back. Diba? Looking back. And what you

18:16can do. Diba? Yung meeting po namin Sir Butch is, actually nakuha ko sa dad ko kay papa,

18:23Henaro. Kasi kami po sa family namin, sinagsaset po talaga siya ng meeting. Not just nausap,

18:31with PowerPoint pa po yung Sir Butch. Oh may PowerPoint? Okay, galing ha?

18:35Oo, ano yung plano mo? So sinabi ko po sa kanya, gustuhan niya.

18:41Yes, meron kang deadline. O yung deadline mo, submit mo yung PowerPoint. Mag-uusap ka nga yung

18:45sasala. Diba? And then the living room and everybody must be present. Ganun ba yon?

18:52Meron bang agenda yan o may minutes of the meeting? Yes, may minutes po po yun Sir Butch,

18:56may note taker po po. Kasi my dad and my mom wants us to be comfortable to talking about

19:03everything. Especially po, pag Filipino po kasi minsan, pag about money, tahimik tayo eh.

19:09So samin, we talk about those if wala na bang ganito, kailangan ba ng ganyan. They are there

19:16to make us understand na, oh anak you have to do this kasi masyado ka palang magastos. Yung mga

19:21ganun po. We're very open about it. But how does France now feel being part of the family of the

19:29Manalo? Nakaka-adapt ka ba agad, France? Or is this something, hey did I marry the wrong family

19:36or what? Ano ba yon, France? Actually Sir, I'm more than grateful to be blessed also to be part

19:45of this new family. And one of the many things I'm grateful for is na-adapt ko po lahat nung

19:52teachings ng parents po ning mi wife. And ipapasa ko po ito sa family ko.

19:59Well, that's good. That's very good.

20:06I think you should start making your online young couples online talk, you know? Para bang

20:12you're able to inspire. Kasi misan after the honeymoon, wala na eh no? Kumbaga nakalipas na.

20:18And you're still in your honeymoon stage, are you? I mean, you got married November, December,

20:24January. Again, few months, no? But again, the reality sets in, kumbaga. You're flying 30,000

20:32feet, di ba? Rather than take off. Pa take off pala kayo ngayon, di ba? Ganun ba yon ang feeling

20:38niyo? The adrenaline rush, right? Yes. But once you settle in the sky, in the view,

20:46you now see the reality, di ba? The beauty of each other. Yes.

20:52So ayun. Thank you very much. Siguro ang ganda ng mga payo niyo. I'm sure a lot of young couples

20:58watching this vlog will be able to communicate with you. And also si Jessa, you have a very good

21:05profession helping young and the people who have disability and the parents. And again, siguro

21:14friends, congratulations. You're in the good company. You're good company of Philippine

21:18Airlines and knowing your president, Stanley, Captain Stanley. I met him so many times. He's

21:26one leader who really best his management skill. I'm happy you're in the company.

21:35Probably, I'd like to look up to you in future captain, manning the big birds, di ba? And

21:44hopefully one day I might be able to catch you as one of your passengers. So ayun. Ang pangarap ko

21:50lang talaga is to be able to sit on the deck. Okay? Ang bawal kasi sa inyo, di ba? Bawal eh,

21:57di ba? Meron kayong mga, by the way, meron kayong two-man cockpit policy, right? Do you have friends?

22:04Yes. Yes. Yes po, meron po. Hindi po pwede na isa lang ang may iwan sa cockpit.

22:10Oo. So hindi lang pwede isa, no? Because of what happened in a German airline, right?

22:17Years ago, right? So ayun. So again, take care of every, take care of yourselves and God bless

22:24and keep on doing that. I know there'll be a lot of challenges as you long go along the way.

22:29Sanay na, sanay na si friends dyan. Yung mga turbulent, yung mga air pockets, no?

22:33Very calm.

22:33Yung mga pockets of your ears, di ba?

22:36To be calm under pressure.

22:37To be calm under pressure, di ba? And to fly sky high, okay? So thank you,

22:43thank you very much and again, more power to you in 2025, okay?

22:47Thank you, sir. Thank you very much for having us.

22:48You're very exciting.

22:50Bye-bye po.

23:07Bye-bye.

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