A married couple from Dallas, Texas, say living in separate homes has improved their relationship, claiming that romance and intimacy have thrived since adopting this unconventional lifestyle.
Heather Gordon, 54, and her husband, James Mudd, 48, maintain separate residences just 1.5 miles apart, citing space for their children and the freedom to have uninterrupted time together.
After trying to live together for a year and a half, they found that living apart brought them closer, enhancing their intimacy and keeping their relationship exciting.
Despite facing criticism from others, they believe their arrangement suits their busy lives and health needs, offering the best of both worlds.
Heather Gordon, 54, and her husband, James Mudd, 48, maintain separate residences just 1.5 miles apart, citing space for their children and the freedom to have uninterrupted time together.
After trying to live together for a year and a half, they found that living apart brought them closer, enhancing their intimacy and keeping their relationship exciting.
Despite facing criticism from others, they believe their arrangement suits their busy lives and health needs, offering the best of both worlds.
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00:00I
00:02Have husband James today
00:04We are married, but we don't live together and we did like a three-part video series a couple weeks ago
00:10that got a lot of attention about
00:13Our relationship, so I want to fill in some of the gaps that I guess I didn't get my point across even though
00:20I did three different videos on it
00:22LAT or living apart together is kind of a new concept for people who are married and
00:27And
00:28what I think a
00:31Lot of people who said like our marriage isn't real or we don't take it seriously if we don't live together are very focused on
00:39The marriage as
00:42opposed to the relationship
00:44so
00:45This is our second marriage. I'm 54. He's 48. His kids are
00:5021 and 24 minor 16 18 and
00:54We have a completely different
00:57like
00:58Family lives because we're a second marriage and our kids were older
01:02so we didn't really like blend our families in the traditional way that
01:06Parents with younger kids might have done and James works out of his house. I work out of my house
01:12We actually did live together for a little bit but circumstances changed
01:17With kids and in things and we live a mile and a half apart now
01:21we have the best relationship the strongest relationship and
01:26it's interesting because so many people will
01:29move in together before they're married and
01:32We don't consider them married
01:34So I don't know why so many people wanted to say that we weren't really married if we weren't living together
01:40It works better for us right now to have our own spaces
01:44We're also not only busy making money and getting our businesses going
01:49We're busy taking care of our health and wellness and we have different sleep routines at night
01:54James likes to fall asleep at about 9 o'clock
01:58And he likes to get up at 4 in the morning and I want to go to bed
02:0110 or 11 and sleep till 6 or 7. I don't want to be woken up just because he gets up James thoughts. I agree
02:10Sleep is absolutely the most important thing to me. So
02:14um
02:17And I do go to bed early I
02:19start getting tired about 8-9 and I like to go to bed and I
02:24Mean do you feel like our relationship is missing anything right now because we don't live together. Absolutely not. It's better, right?
02:31yeah, cuz we're able to work on ourselves and
02:35Our mind work and all that stuff. That's highly important to me. And yeah, he likes to he likes a big morning meditation and
02:43I do mine at night and and I want privacy for that and he wants privacy for his
02:49What else do you want to add a lot of guys talked a lot of shit about you cheating on me and you're having an
02:54Affair if I don't live with you. Oh, that's crazy. I mean that is um, that's just
02:59insecurities really
03:03Insecurities, I mean I got nothing to worry about you and you don't have anything to worry about me
03:06So we don't need to be right on top of each other. So you have that trust. We also don't track each other on our phones
03:13No, that's just that's craziness right there. So
03:17It's more fun. It's more mysterious. We don't know each other's exact steps throughout the day. So why did you want to be married?
03:26Because I love you and
03:28You're my best friend
03:32Yes, and offer me
03:34At the time I was 50 when we met
03:37My kids were in high school
03:39They're girls and they just felt weird saying my mom's boyfriend and I didn't really want a boyfriend
03:44I wasn't interested in being on the market anymore
03:47he was single for 15 years after his divorce and I was single for 10 after my divorce and we
03:52met on Facebook not on the dating part just on Facebook and
03:55We went on one coffee date and never separated. And so we want that that status. We like to wear wedding rings
04:03We like to say husband wife because we take each other seriously and we don't want to be on the market
04:08But yet we weren't in a place with our kids. They still come home from college. They need space and
04:14He's in real estate. It's not a time to sell
04:17He sold his house when it was a good time, but it's not time for me to sell mine right now
04:21But we're building our dream home with double master bedrooms and we'll be living together again
04:26But I wanted you to meet James. He is on tick-tock under mud balls
04:32That's two D's and two L's and you didi be a LLS
04:36Follow James mud balls because he had to start a new account and he needs love and he's awesome