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In this episode, we delve into the complexities of women's choices in romantic partners, highlighting a woman's struggle with her father's abusive behavior. I discuss why some women are drawn to "bad boys," exploring themes of personal accountability and the reinforcement of negative dynamics.

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00:00:00All right. Hey everybody, 1.30 ish on the 11th of February
00:00:072025 and
00:00:10So this is before I forget, this is before I forget, there's a little rant here
00:00:14Of course, this is just for donors so we can go spicy as we want. So there's just a little rant here and
00:00:20Then I'm gonna take some questions. I have another call in shortly
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00:00:30So I was talking to a woman yesterday and it was a private call
00:00:33But I asked her if I could talk about the themes in in public and she said yes
00:00:39because it was a very good call, but it was a private call and therefore
00:00:43I had to
00:00:45Keep it private. So
00:00:47So the general theme was this so she's
00:00:51in her 50s her father's in his 80s and
00:00:54And
00:00:55He's aggressive
00:00:57abusive and
00:00:59nasty and and sort of has been his whole life and
00:01:02She's sort of complaining, you know that there are these negative men in the world and this and the other right now
00:01:08Her father had been married four times and had a whack load of kids
00:01:13her father had been married four times and she in her 50s was in
00:01:18sort of
00:01:19tortured by not
00:01:21Spending time with him by not seeing him by not taking care of him as he aged and so the rant that kind of erupted
00:01:28from me
00:01:29Testicle Vesuvius style was something like this. Why on earth why on earth are you women complaining about all these assholes in the world?
00:01:37When you keep dating them fucking them marrying them giving children and taking care of them in their old age
00:01:45So let me ask you this let me ask you this have you ever known
00:01:51Have you ever known women who date assholes and complain about assholes?
00:01:55I just just out of curiosity. Have you ever known?
00:01:59women in your life
00:02:03Who
00:02:05date and give children to assholes
00:02:08And have sex with assholes take care of our souls nurse our souls and then say gee
00:02:14there is a distressing plethora of
00:02:17assholes in
00:02:19the world and
00:02:21I think
00:02:23I'm not gonna make this my sole mission, but I am going to make it a mission to put a stop to this
00:02:33Which is I am no longer going to
00:02:37listen to women complain about assholes if
00:02:39They keep having sex with our souls if they keep dating them if they keep pining after them if they keep taking care of them
00:02:46And if they keep marrying them and giving them children
00:02:50You
00:02:54So
00:02:56It's kind of strange. I don't know if women know this or if they just kind of know this unconsciously
00:03:03but
00:03:04Sex now you could say children and all of that, but you know just sex as it stands
00:03:09Sex is the ultimate positive reinforcement for males
00:03:14You know there were times in human history when you know
00:03:20A dozen females reproduce for every one male
00:03:29Harem style, right?
00:03:31So men cannot
00:03:35resist foundationally
00:03:37sexual access
00:03:40Right men cannot resist
00:03:44sexual access and
00:03:46so if
00:03:48women
00:03:51Provide sexual access to men they are creating
00:03:56Masculinity they are creating men. They are rewarding with the ultimate reward
00:04:04Men as a whole and
00:04:06I didn't quite lose it with this woman, but I suppose I was somewhat emphatic that if her father
00:04:13For more than half a century has been an asshole
00:04:16To her and he called all kinds of terrible names and was a bully and like just a terrible terrible guy all around
00:04:23if
00:04:26Her father
00:04:28Was an asshole to her and all of the women now tell me if this is a male-female thing
00:04:33Maybe it's just a male-female thing for you
00:04:35I think it's more of a female thing, but I don't obviously have a sample size of of me
00:04:40but
00:04:43I said what do the men say?
00:04:45Oh the men say your dad is a jerk and you shouldn't write but all the women are like
00:04:49Oh, we should take care of him. We should visit him. We should make sure he's okay. We should be nice to him. We should
00:04:58Forgive and forget and and so on right? Well, you know men we don't forgive we just forget but women may forgive but they never forget
00:05:12What is it now I I try not to get all kinds of judgmental
00:05:15I mean, I'll probably fail but I'll try I would try not to get
00:05:22All kinds of judgmental
00:05:24Because you know what? I'm sure there are some
00:05:27Vaguely decent evolutionary reasons for all of this, but literally what the fuck
00:05:36It's not so much that women
00:05:39seem
00:05:40to love
00:05:41jerks
00:05:44It's that
00:05:46they love jerks or
00:05:48are turned on by jerks or
00:05:51Have sex with and date and marry and give children to jerks and then take care of them when they get old and so on
00:05:56right
00:05:59Made servants to
00:06:02Semi-sociopaths it's that
00:06:04They keep complaining about jerks while pursuing nothing
00:06:08But jerks as a whole in general tons of exceptions tons of exceptions
00:06:16What is it with the ladies and the bad boys
00:06:23Help me out now, I mean I kind of get you know, well the
00:06:30The bad boys are confident and and dominant and aggressive and don't take no for an answer and so on right
00:06:38like Elon Musk
00:06:40Elon Musk was talking his mom was talking about how
00:06:47Elon Musk's I think his father right it was was abusive and and terrible and so on and
00:06:54She she left him or whatever moved to Cape Town and then he came and said let's get married
00:06:58She said no
00:06:59And then the guy went to her family and said she's agreed to marry me
00:07:03The family was surprised but went along with it and then the parents were like here's 800 people at the wedding
00:07:08She just kind of got in a sense dragged along behind
00:07:11this
00:07:12guy
00:07:23I mean, it's it's a foundational thing
00:07:26Ladies who you bang is how the future is made who you bang determines the future
00:07:33Of society of your life of your kids, right?
00:07:38And I get that
00:07:41Women like, you know, the sort of dominant
00:07:44Type and these aggressive type and the fearless type, right?
00:07:50It's the fearless type
00:07:53But a man without fear tends to be sociopathic his fear is a natural normal and healthy response
00:08:00You
00:08:07So I I just I'm having I'm having trouble with this as a whole
00:08:13you know, there's certain things about women that are really tough to follow and
00:08:19for me, it's like I can get I can get the
00:08:25Finding the dominant
00:08:27Hyper-alpha cold-eyed big abd Christian gray kind of guy to be sexy
00:08:37But then why complain that there are assholes when you're literally breeding with assholes
00:08:44That that's the part like that's the part that to me I can understand having a fetish for cold-eyed
00:08:52Dominant men, right?
00:08:55I get that evolutionarily speaking right but what I don't understand is all the complaining
00:09:04About
00:09:06You know, you know that the the sociopath who shows no fear is is strangely
00:09:13emotionally unavailable
00:09:16Oh
00:09:18My now of course men I get this to men and I you know crabs at men in the call-in shows
00:09:25Intimately about this as well that if you just date women for their looks then don't be shocked when there are shallow
00:09:33And and unaccountable women like women who won't can't be held to account
00:09:36I can't be held to any kind because there's always some other simp who's gonna
00:09:40Rush in and and and take care of them and solve their problems and so on, right?
00:09:45Oh
00:09:46My god
00:09:51Or, you know the the me too stuff combined with
00:09:55Well, you know, I told him no and he just stopped trying what's wrong with him. All right
00:10:01Let's let's get your questions and and comments a question for staff again. Thank you guys so much
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00:10:20Question for Steph my husband and I have been debating about the worth of religion
00:10:23My stance is that religion provided people with wisdom that wasn't common at the time or even now
00:10:28He thinks there is subjective morality outside of religion, but doesn't know much about the work you've done on the topic
00:10:34I think primarily this issue is one of trauma for him given his friend committed suicide
00:10:39You actually had a call with him about this immediately after it happened and his friend used
00:10:43religion as
00:10:45The reasoning for why he did it that life would be better for him after death. He had a lot of mental health problems
00:10:51So the topic itself is triggering
00:10:53But how do you personally walk the line in your life of not believing in the existence of a god but objectively valuing the principles?
00:10:58And wisdom of the Bible slash religion better question yet. How did you square that conversation with Izzy? I'm imagining wait
00:11:05So
00:11:07We don't believe in God, but God is good. Anyway, no, that's not that would be a completely contradictory statement
00:11:13to to make
00:11:19So
00:11:21It hit me with a why if you've ever known someone
00:11:25Who's had health issues with their kids? The kids have had health issues that I see a beyond individual control
00:11:33I
00:11:35certainly have
00:11:36experience to that
00:11:41So if you've had
00:11:44Parents with you know, the kids have health issues the kids get sick and remember, you know half of kids used to die before the age
00:11:49of
00:11:51five for a lot of revolution
00:11:54so
00:11:56Religion allows you to to manage your terror at the random and capricious nature of the universe
00:12:02Your kid gets some horrible virus or something like that. And you know, particularly for most of our evolution
00:12:08We didn't have any way to treat that really so you just had to what what could you do? You wanted to do something and
00:12:17You would pray and
00:12:19You would pray to God and you would make bargains and you would make deals if my kids gets better
00:12:24I'll do X Y & Z to promote this religion. So
00:12:28For religious people when you and yeah, I'm just telling you it's it's a form of you know, stress and anxiety management
00:12:35that's kind of hard to you know, kind of take away from people but
00:12:39they
00:12:42Have kids who are half dying and what can they do but pray?
00:12:48Now
00:12:49The problem of course is that if you pray for God to make your sick child better
00:12:54You have the you know pretty foundational question of if God can heal the sick
00:13:00Why did he let your child become sick in the first place, right?
00:13:03But you kind of have to you just kind of have to blank out on that one. You have to put that aside, right?
00:13:13So
00:13:16You
00:13:18That's the price now, of course the problem is that when people are generally helpless in society here for sickness or whatever, right?
00:13:25And it's not just your kid could be a wife who could be yourself. Are you sick? Are you gonna pray right?
00:13:30so
00:13:33The problem is that this creates a market for religion and then what happens is
00:13:40The the priestly class of the witch doctors are now profiting from the helplessness in society
00:13:49And they're profiting from the helplessness in society in other words because people are helpless they pray
00:13:55They sacrifice to the God they give to the priest or whatever, right? So that's because people are helpless
00:14:01They do this stuff. Now. The problem is then you set up an economy which profits from helplessness, which is one of the reasons why
00:14:10The more theocratic societies tend to kind of stagnate
00:14:16Because if you have an entire class of intellectuals who are profiting off the helplessness of society people in society
00:14:23then anyone who comes along and makes them less helpless is
00:14:28Messing with their business plan
00:14:34The other thing of course is that
00:14:37When you have answers like so
00:14:41Theological or superstitious answers exactly like a drug
00:14:45To me exactly like a drug. So a drug will make you feel better in the short run, but cost you in the long run
00:14:50I mean, I don't mean like, you know, you're getting surgery or something an anesthetic
00:14:55I mean like if you're unhappy and you snort cocaine, you'll feel better in the short run
00:15:01But then you will feel worse in the long run
00:15:06Things will get bad in the long run
00:15:09so
00:15:11When parents need to tell their children here's the right way to behave right here's the right way to behave
00:15:17What are they gonna answer? Well
00:15:20My invisible friend told me and has been the answer for most of human history
00:15:25What is right? What is the good? What is right? Well, it's this list compiled by the all-knowing all-powerful all-good God, right?
00:15:32And
00:15:34that creates a market for an
00:15:38anti-rational quote explanation for ethics and
00:15:43Because it is not
00:15:44Empirical philosophical objective or rational it is subject to exploitation and so on right? So that's really that's really terrible, right?
00:15:54Whereas that which is rational is not open to exploitation because you either accept the reasoning or you doubt, right?
00:16:02You
00:16:04So
00:16:06Religion to me. I
00:16:08Understand, you know, you're you're you're you're waiting for the test back on your kid, right?
00:16:12are they sick or not or they're gonna make it or not and you want to do something and you're desperate to do something and
00:16:18You can't go and and find a cure in in the time, right?
00:16:23But so you pray right and I understand that it makes sense
00:16:26It is a form of feeling like you're doing something
00:16:28Of course, everybody knows like they've done these studies where they divide sick people in two groups
00:16:33One group is prayed for one group is not prayed for the outcomes are the same
00:16:36So it's not but people want to feel like they're in control and the only way
00:16:40to genuinely be in control is to slowly build up the science and free market and
00:16:46Medicine, but that takes generations. That doesn't help your kid in the moment, right?
00:16:50so you want to feel like you have some influence or effect or control in the outcome of a
00:16:56Sort of particular situation and
00:17:00You can't
00:17:02Like if you're in the desert you can either build you can spend, you know
00:17:06A generation or two building these like big burr style or Dutch style irrigation systems, right?
00:17:12And then you can get get water
00:17:14But if your crops are dying
00:17:17Of thirst you can't irrigate them
00:17:21Quickly, right? You can't build that whole irrigation system. They'll be long dead
00:17:25So the problem and there's this tension in society, right? Do we?
00:17:30Do we plant trees or do we pray for shade so to speak, right? So do do we?
00:17:38do we create these big irrigation systems that take a generation or two to build and
00:17:43Then we're pretty much guaranteed to have the water or do we pray for rain?
00:17:49it's a big tension in society and
00:17:52And
00:17:54They're at war with each other
00:17:57Because the people who want to build the irrigation systems are accused of being without faith and
00:18:02the people who pray are accused of
00:18:06Not really doing anything but just wanting the appearance of doing good right rather like, you know, this whole thing of this sort of
00:18:13Virtue signaling, right?
00:18:14the what Musk rails against like the appearance of doing good rather than actually doing good the appearance of doings like I'll pray for you is
00:18:20kind of along those lines I
00:18:23obviously, it's passive-aggressive and so on but
00:18:31There's this big tension do we build rational structures to solve our problems or do we rely on faith?
00:18:41Do and if you want to wish James a happy birthday, I'm sure he wouldn't it was yesterday
00:18:44I hope that you will I do so he's a great guy
00:18:48so
00:18:50That's that's the tension
00:18:54You touched on this expertly in just poor yeah my novel just poor this is the big tension, right?
00:18:59The priest versus the agriculturalist, right? Do you pray?
00:19:03and and the priest in just poor is very clear on if you if you're
00:19:09If your agricultural reforms create plenty, it will lead people away from God
00:19:20And there's a lot of tension there
00:19:25Do you pray
00:19:28For rain or do you build your 50 years of irrigation systems?
00:19:35All right. So let's get your questions and comments. Come in, sir. Oh
00:19:41Yes trying to drill through the technical errors
00:19:45Steph I have a question. It's actually Steph with a PA with an F not a pH to so, you know
00:19:50Steph I have a question. My wife is
00:19:53As of late feeling very depressed because she feels as though she's left out in a group in group conversations
00:20:00And the people are indifferent towards her. I've been trying to suggest that we can do something like improv to make her outgoing or
00:20:08She read some books on socialization, but she doesn't want to do it. Do you have any advice?
00:20:15Okay, let me make sure I understand this my wife is as of late feeling very depressed because she feels as though she's left out
00:20:21in group
00:20:22Conversations and the people are indifferent towards her
00:20:25right
00:20:31Okay, well let me ask you this Jules does your wife believe that people owe her attention or inclusion
00:20:44That this is a sort of big big question and while you're answering that
00:20:49Somebody writes one of the girls I met last month told me her ex was a psycho and he said he made her scared of
00:20:53Men, her friend was aching it on. I see so many girls that say this crap a
00:20:59Lot of people prefer drama to love, you know, love is not dramatic. I
00:21:04Mean, I've been deeply in love with my wife for almost a quarter century. There's no drama
00:21:09There's no there's no ups and downs. There's no drama. That's just this
00:21:13Daily incredibly positive and pleasant life
00:21:18No drama, but a lot of people who can't feel
00:21:23Can only experience extremes like they can't feel emotions. They can only experience extremes. They've sort of burned out
00:21:30their adrenals on fight-or-flight and so they they can only
00:21:34experience life at the extremes
00:21:38And therefore they can't pair bond because pair bond is around sort of consistency in positive behavior and so on so
00:21:45When women date guys who are psychos my feeling is that they're just they're kind of dead inside and they're just trying to jump-start their emotions
00:21:52with extremes
00:21:54And of course, you know the the whole
00:21:57childhood sound the boxer stuff
00:22:00Somebody says I believe there is some sort of trade-off women way in their minds. He's abusive, but there's this thing
00:22:06I like more than not liking being abused
00:22:12Women's sexual fantasies are very dark as a whole. I mean, yeah, certainly the majority
00:22:20It's also if we focus on the guy we don't have to do the self work on ourselves, yeah
00:22:25Well, and remember most people but we're just talking about women here. Maybe it's a little bit more among women most people
00:22:33Only do what their friends approve of
00:22:36you
00:22:39So a lot of people like the drama and excitement of dating crazy people they do it's kind of addicted
00:22:44and so the question with a woman if if she's gonna date some guy who's you know, obviously
00:22:50Unstable and and volatile or whatever it is, right? And it really doesn't come down to anything other than what will her friends think?
00:22:57And most people don't judge what is true
00:22:58They judge what is approved and now if her friends say listen if you date that you're out of the friend group
00:23:03Like if you date that guy you're out of the friend group
00:23:05I mean, I'm like I care I care about you enough that I'm not gonna watch you get treated like trash
00:23:10I just not gonna do it. Okay, I can't possibly care for you and watch you, you know
00:23:15Voluntarily put your hand in a blender and hit frappe like there's just no way
00:23:19Right, whereas if it's just oh, yeah. No, we agree with you. Oh my god. What else did he do?
00:23:23Oh my god, that's so like, okay, then they're just
00:23:26They're feeding they're feeding you into the machinery right and most social groups will feed you into the machinery
00:23:34Somebody says I went out on Saturday just a vibe at the bar with my homie
00:23:41What is with the ghetto talk I don't understand that I mean, I'll make fun of it from time to time
00:23:46But what's wrong with just having some?
00:23:49Proper language out here I went out on Saturday just a vibe at the bar with my homie
00:23:54Dance with the hottest chick there and then she said she's done saw her again and told her let's dance again
00:24:00And she said we already did I told her let's rematch and she happily obliged taught me how sometimes women want
00:24:07Guts that don't immediately take no one guys that don't immediately take no for an answer
00:24:13Okay, so you've got to
00:24:15Date with the hot you got to dance with the hot chick good for you. I'm sure that's the foundation of a family
00:24:22A theory on complaining women is a Western cultural narrative that a woman can tame a man if she's high value enough
00:24:28Maybe it's a status thing
00:24:29They don't want to give up on the asshole because that hurts her vanity and the resentment and shame bubbles up as complaints
00:24:36He's just too blind to see how lucky he is to have me
00:24:39The martyr-like suffering of staying loyal to the man becomes a badge of honor for them. So is it that
00:24:44I'm hot enough to tame the bad boy and
00:24:48Therefore I need the bad boy to confirm how hot I am. Is that right?
00:24:52You
00:24:56There are church marketing books that say go to go after sick people recently broken
00:25:03Families recent criminals and appeal to their helplessness. They're good prospects to join
00:25:08There are no atheists in foxholes. Yeah, because we don't believe in collective delusions so we don't go to foxholes
00:25:16Catholics are supposed to engage in works of mercy both
00:25:19Corporal feeding the hungry clothing the naked healing the sick and spiritual teaching burying the dead visiting prisoners and the sick if able
00:25:26It's something that nuns and monks used to be somewhat famous for
00:25:30Well, it's a nice bit of information. I'm not quite sure where if it's it
00:25:39All right, let's see here
00:25:42You
00:25:46Love is not dramatic big agree. Yeah, it's it's really not I mean my wife and I don't we don't have drama
00:25:52We just enjoy each other's company. All right
00:25:54She just feels
00:25:57It's been a pattern. Oh, this is the woman with the socialization
00:26:01She just feels it's been a pattern for most of her life. She sometimes is upset that people react
00:26:07Positively towards me on in some social situations and don't seem to engage with her as much
00:26:12She is shyer than I am, but she's still pleasant with people. She doesn't feel that she should have more attention when she speaks
00:26:21Pleasant with people
00:26:27Pleasant with people
00:26:30Um
00:26:33So, what does it mean that she's pleasant with people that she just have sort of like
00:26:37Homilies and and cliches and it's nice weather that we're having for this type of year
00:26:42I mean, she may not be shy. She may just be boring
00:26:45I mean not saying in general or to you but but in in society and so on right so
00:26:51Steph what can you tell someone who believes therapy is useless, especially when they see so many women in therapy for years
00:26:56Who are still batshit crazy, it's kind of hard to argue against it
00:27:01Well, there is actually studies that show that ignoring your problems reduces stress
00:27:06right, so sometimes it's just like yeah gonna
00:27:08Gonna ignore it right and and you know, most most problems go away if they're on a court, right?
00:27:14So if somebody says therapy is useless, what I would say is well, would you say that?
00:27:21Dieting is a scam. In other words, would you say that if you?
00:27:25Take in fewer calories than you expend. Do you think it's false that you will lose weight, right?
00:27:33Do you think that
00:27:36Human beings are exempt from basic laws of physics and energy that human beings can consume fewer
00:27:44Calories than they expend and somehow not lose weight
00:27:47Because if you believe that then you should design a car that goes further the less gas you put in it
00:27:54Like that would be amazing, right?
00:27:56so
00:27:57if you believe that dieting is
00:28:01a valid thing right like you lose weight if you
00:28:05Take in fewer calories than you're expending
00:28:08Then I go my question would be
00:28:11But a lot of people fail in their diets like 90% of people fail in their diet
00:28:15So does that mean that dieting is wrong or that just people do it badly?
00:28:19Right, so therapy which is, you know coming to important truths about
00:28:25Yourself and your history and uncovering patterns so that you have more conscious control over your life direction
00:28:31So do people do therapy a badly sure and there are lots of people who go to the gym who don't get ripped
00:28:38What does that mean? It just means it
00:28:40So there's therapy the theory and and what it does like dieting their calories in calories out and then there's what people do with it
00:28:46Right, those are two different things
00:28:49So would you say that dieting doesn't work because a lot of people fail in their diets right doesn't really make sense
00:29:00Somebody replied therapy is only as effective as the work a person is willing to put in and there are lots of people in therapy
00:29:05Who believe they can change their lives while still having their abusers and bad people in their lives
00:29:10Well, I mean certainly I'm not a therapist but in my call-in shows I'm bringing moral clarity to people's lives. I
00:29:17Think that therapy as a whole would be better as a moral discipline than a self-knowledge discipline. So
00:29:29That's not what a lot of people do a lot of people it's like navel-gazing understanding themselves and
00:29:35All of that so, all right, I
00:29:39Think you should tell them what you perceive and think but there are things you don't see from a distance especially his internal experience
00:29:47So I wouldn't I'm sorry. I mean, I missed that one. Sorry. All right, Steph
00:29:52What do you think?
00:29:56Of one of the biggest causes of approach approach anxiety slash
00:29:59Averseness to speaking with women for men is that they don't have enough just anger towards their mom
00:30:05Ever since Kairos from our community here said this I have an epiphany with respect to how I see women
00:30:10I notice guys that haven't e food confronted with their abusive mom usually suck at being direct with women
00:30:17So you have to outgrow your mother in order to be a leader among women
00:30:25You have to outgrow your mother
00:30:26You have to outgrow your mother in order to lead women now again, you know leadership is mutual in relationship
00:30:32My wife leads some areas I lead some areas but in order to be a leader among women you have to outgrow your mother
00:30:38Now there are a lot of mothers who were like nope fuck you kid you're not outgrowing me I'm hanging on to you till grim
00:30:45death
00:30:47Now to cripple you and undermine you gonna emasculate you you stay a small little serving functional little Lord Fauntleroy
00:30:57Waiter boy, you're here to serve me
00:31:01You're here to make me not lonely. You're here to make me feel wanted. You're here to make me feel needed
00:31:06I don't have a relationship with a quality man. So I'm gonna have a relationship with a birthed boy
00:31:12Right, so so your mother a
00:31:17Lot of times if she's certainly she's dysfunctional your mother will will fight and resist like hell you outgrowing her
00:31:27Right, so hit me with the why if
00:31:29This has if you've seen this or experience this I certainly have right hit me with the why if you've seen or experienced
00:31:37this
00:31:38that
00:31:39your mother
00:31:42Will not let you outgrow her which means she will not submit to your authority on anything
00:31:49She will not treat you as an equal or a superior in some areas she will not take advice
00:31:54She will not bow her angry will towards your authority or expertise
00:32:05You cannot be a man without outgrowing your mother
00:32:08Sorry, this is like not even a Freudian this is
00:32:13Self-knowledge sort of one-on-one you you cannot be a man without outgrowing your mother, right?
00:32:22And mothers a lot of times absolutely fiercely and pathologically and instinctually and deeply resist
00:32:30You outgrowing
00:32:36Your mother
00:32:39You
00:32:45So if you have a mother and listen, I I'm in this fulcrum with my daughter right now
00:32:51I'm in this fulcrum with my daughter where I do want her to challenge me. I want her to out think me
00:32:56I want her to out reason me and I want her to teach me things because I need for her to have her own self
00:33:02Authority in her life and to not view me as some sort of ultimate authority figure
00:33:09Who she cannot outgrow. I don't I don't want that. I want her to have authority in her own life and in her own future
00:33:16relationships
00:33:20So it is really really important that you teach your kids how to outgrow you
00:33:28That's really the point
00:33:31And
00:33:32you know, she's very smart and she's very funny and she's
00:33:36going through a good cynical teenage phase and
00:33:39So I really really need her to you know, see my foibles my flaws some of my pettiness
00:33:45I need her to see me as fully human so that she is not
00:33:48Trapped underneath this big giant toadstool head of mine where she can't get the Sun
00:33:54And not around self insults because you know, I'm still obviously I have a good deal of self-respect and pride in what I do in my
00:34:01Life, but yeah, obviously it for perfect and and all that kind of stuff
00:34:05So then the question is if you have a mother
00:34:09Who won't let you outgrow her who won't let you grow up. What do you do?
00:34:14if she just fiercely undermines
00:34:16attacks and resists your
00:34:18Growth your evolution if she's constantly trying to do things for you all the time if she's constantly worried about you
00:34:24Which is a form of insult?
00:34:26Towards you if she's constantly anxious about your future or anxious about what you're doing if she's constantly having to remind you of things
00:34:32if she's just constantly undermining your
00:34:36Responsibility as an adult and there's so many different ways that this happens
00:34:43Then
00:34:46What do you do
00:34:48What do you do
00:34:51Somebody says my brother really can't speak with women and has been romantically unsuccessful for as long as I can remember
00:34:56It's the busy biggest simp for our mom too and can't say no to her. That's a really interesting comparison observation
00:35:03so if you can't outgrow your mother, then you are easy pickings for controlling women and
00:35:10Women will say like dating women will date you and say oh, okay. This guy's
00:35:14Broken by a mother he comes pre domesticated pre-owned pre-stamped pre spineless
00:35:19so I can push him around and get my way and
00:35:22if I ever have any trouble, I'll just side up with his mom and we'll both take him down and
00:35:27She may get a certain amount of familiarity about that and all that kind of stuff. But of course then what happens is
00:35:34Is what? Well, she has no respect for the man
00:35:39And
00:35:40she's
00:35:41the number one reason that women file for divorce the majority of women the majority of divorces are found by women and the number one reason is
00:35:50Dissatisfaction, right? So
00:35:53It's like if you have a really quote obedient woman, then you feel like oh, I'm gonna get my way
00:35:58but then you end up with the emptiness and the passive aggression and the sexlessness because she doesn't have much of an identity and
00:36:04Then it doesn't work for you, right?
00:36:07The predatory women looking for broken men are the scariest women and I can't imagine being so incredibly foul
00:36:15Now listen, I'm not gonna argue you out of your anger
00:36:19But you understand if you dump a bunch of sugar in a field you're gonna get ants
00:36:25You're gonna get mice like if you dump a like prey creates its own predation
00:36:31It's not just as simple as well there are these predators out there like predators can't survive without prey
00:36:37So everybody who goes out into the world in the form of prey, you know, they're they're
00:36:43Kind of hesitant and the shoulders are up around their ears and they're just kind of nervous and their voice trembles and they won't look
00:36:48Anyone in the eye. They're just like eat me eat me eat me. That's all all they're doing is
00:36:54Rubbing themselves with fish oil and jumping into a feeding frenzy of sharks
00:36:58I
00:37:00Mean
00:37:01Go we don't right, but you can imagine of course going in a cunning zebra suit into the Serengeti in Africa
00:37:09And then would you blame would you blame the Lions for chewing your ass off? No
00:37:13So I get where you're coming from. Oh, there's these poor these predators. I just but it's the prey
00:37:19That creates the predators because predators cannot exist in a place where there is no prey
00:37:26Which is why all of the stuff
00:37:29That I talk about is like stop being prey stop being prey in your life stop it
00:37:38And stop blaming
00:37:40the predators
00:37:42When you're rubbing yourself a marinade and jumping into the lion's den
00:37:51I mean literally it's like it's like
00:37:53Walking through the worst neighborhood in town with a bunch of hundred dollar bills in your hands and then like I got jumped man
00:38:01It's like you talk you targeted yourself. You're out there in the world being obvious prey. Oh
00:38:08But people prey on me. It's so terrible. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, fuck
00:38:14Guess what
00:38:17Sunshine there are predators in the world. I don't mean to shock you. I
00:38:22Don't mean to shock you but there are predators in the world and if you go around
00:38:28With your head up your ass
00:38:30Marinated weak helpless and full of resources. You are gonna get pillaged
00:38:36It's gonna happen
00:38:39Sorry, it's at some point I stopped blaming the predators honestly I do
00:38:45At some point it's like well where there's a big food source. There's gonna be predators
00:38:52You
00:38:56So you understand that when you go out into the world as prey
00:39:02You are drawing and provoking and making the saliva fall like rain from the mouths of the predators
00:39:12So, I don't know if you've ever been to Florida, you know, there's this thing in Florida like don't
00:39:17Feed the gators, right?
00:39:19Don't feed the gators because then the gators start associating people with food and they become more dangerous and blah blah blah, right?
00:39:26So don't don't feed the gators because if you feed the gators
00:39:29We have to call the gator because it's too dangerous, right?
00:39:33so the problem is
00:39:38Feeding the gators
00:39:40Right, which is you you're being prey in a sense, right? You're mimicking prey by giving food to the gators, right?
00:39:45or my daughter and I used to enjoy the process of getting a seagulls or you get a
00:39:54French fries when you hold the French fry up and you try to get that great photo where the
00:39:59Seagull is is taking the French fry, right?
00:40:06So what would happen well you sometimes you'd get a great photo of a bird feeding out of your hand
00:40:12And you know what else would happen sometimes
00:40:14You'd get bird shit on your face
00:40:16Or on your shoulders or your hat or something like that cut to the point where I was showing up in scuba gear almost
00:40:23Right. I want to feed these birds
00:40:28Bird poops on me
00:40:31So mad at the bird it's like you're feeding the bird you're drawing the bird to you you're feeding the
00:40:37Bird right. There's this old meme where this guy was saying that
00:40:42he would get
00:40:44Cats from the shelter and sort of keep them in his backyard, but every now and then
00:40:50The coyotes would come and eat the cat and he'd have to go and get another cat from the shelter and
00:40:54his friend commented it sounds like you're just
00:40:57Feeding sheltered cats to coyotes and then his daughter started crying and it was all kinds of terrible, right?
00:41:05But if you keep
00:41:08Quote feeding sheltered cats to coyotes. Can you really blame the coyotes for being in the vicinity?
00:41:15You understand that complaining about predators is one of the most foundational elements of being prey
00:41:23Right complaining about predator is one of the most foundational elements of being prey
00:41:29Because when you accept that there are predators in the world
00:41:32You
00:41:37When you accept that there are predators in the world you
00:41:40Guide your life accordingly and you stop complaining about it because you accept it as a reality
00:41:46Right. It's the old thing. You can complain that you get sunburns or you can slip slap-slop right step on a hat
00:41:54Slap on some sunscreen slip on a t-shirt
00:41:58Right, so stop complaining
00:42:01Accept the reality there are predators
00:42:05And conduct your life accordingly stop complaining. Oh
00:42:10Here comes. Okay. I
00:42:12Do think there is a bit of a difference between wild animals that are incapable of morality and human beings who are predatory because they're
00:42:19Actively evil, but yeah evil people are always going to exist just like natural predators. So gotta not be prey
00:42:24Well, well, thank you. I appreciate this
00:42:28This is an advice this is like a PhD level course, right and you're telling me, you know, you know
00:42:34There are moral differences between people and wild animals. Oh
00:42:39Fuck I write that shit down. That's brilliant. That's genius. Not something I've been talking about consistently for 20 years
00:42:46Thank you for stating the blindingly obvious
00:42:50You know, I appreciate the opportunity to speak to the post
00:42:56Doctorate class in physics. I just wanted to remind you that
00:43:01Matter tends to attract matter
00:43:04Yes, did you guys know that? I mean you get a PhD post PhDs in physics
00:43:08But did you know did you know gases expand when heated?
00:43:14It's really cool, I mean, I don't mean to blow you guys minds, but that's that's a fact
00:43:25Just people can't resist can they people just I do think there's a bit of a difference you wild animals
00:43:31They're incapable morality and human beings who are predatory
00:43:39Oh, it's delightful people just they cannot resist
00:43:43Well, I really appreciate the opportunity to give my lecture to
00:43:47All of you guys with pose who are doing postdoctoral work in advanced calculus and functions and relations
00:43:53I just wanted to I just wanted to put this up here. I'll put this up here on the board
00:43:59Two and two
00:44:03They don't make three I just I wanted to like not have you think and they don't make five and they don't make a blue
00:44:09unicorn two and two make
00:44:12You guys want to take a moment to absorb the brilliance of this two and two making four people and animals are different moral categories
00:44:20Yeah
00:44:22People can't resist it. I don't know why I don't know why people can't resist it, but they can't oh
00:44:27Oh, I have something blindingly obvious to say that's smart
00:44:33Steph I'm gonna cry. Maybe I'm just not very smart. I'm trying here. Oh, no, don't don't do self-pity
00:44:39Don't don't do self-pity on me, bro. Don't do self-pity on me. Oh
00:44:43But are you making me sad?
00:44:46No, I'm just I'm just making some fun right I mean you're just stating something blindingly obvious
00:44:52Right, you know that human predator is like, you know, you talk about a serial killer as a predator
00:44:57But it's not the same as a coyote morally, right? We don't try a coyote and put him in prison, right?
00:45:02I get that and we know we know humans and animals have different moral categories
00:45:10Oh my gosh, I'm sorry, I don't mean a lot. I don't mean you know, it's just it's just funny
00:45:15for me
00:45:19So it is foul, yeah, I get it's foul it get it's foul, but if you're honest come on man
00:45:28Okay, let's let's do radical honesty time here
00:45:31I'm gonna be honest about it. And I if you tell me this has never been the case for you. You're lying
00:45:35You're absolutely lying. Okay
00:45:39Tell me or tell me not have you ever been in a situation
00:45:43With somebody who's so submissive that it provokes annoyance and aggression in you
00:45:50Have you ever been in a situation?
00:45:54Where somebody is around you and they are so submissive
00:46:01That it provokes dominance annoyance irritation and superiority in you, of course you have I have
00:46:08Right somebody's just quite so craven. You just want to smack them
00:46:14Right, so this is how so this is how predators are created
00:46:18This is somebody who's trying to turn you into a predator by being excessive prey
00:46:25It's annoying
00:46:27And it can provoke irritation. I'm aware of this. I mean this happens in call-in shows where people are just okay. Yeah. Yeah
00:46:33Okay, I did that. They just so submissive that it gets annoying
00:46:36Submissive that it gets annoying
00:46:38right
00:46:39So people can you y'all can say oh, but these terrible predators out there how to you're them
00:46:45I'm them. Come on, be honest
00:46:49Stop abstracting yourself from the human experience and saying all these terrible predators out there. I can't believe it's so terrible
00:46:56Come on, we all do it
00:46:59It happens to us all
00:47:01We all get provoked
00:47:04Into a kind of
00:47:06predation and
00:47:08aggression
00:47:10Yeah predators are to some degree a pulled economy like it's a cycle, right?
00:47:14So predators on children create prey as adults which then draw more predators and you end up in this
00:47:20Dominant submission hierarchy for the rest of your life unless you sort of break out of it
00:47:24Okay, so let's get back to mom's got another few minutes here. Let's get back to the moms
00:47:28What do you do with a mother who won't let you grow up?
00:47:31She won't let you become an equal she won't treat you with respect she won't learn from you
00:47:35She won't treat you as an independent adult. What do you do with a mother who won't let you grow up?
00:47:41How do you get how do you deal with that how do you deal with a mother who won't let you grow up
00:47:50Because my friends and I when I was growing up we had very different approaches to this
00:47:57We had very different approaches to this
00:48:01How do you do it
00:48:05I mean, I think you can say look I need to I need to grow up. I need to right need to be an adult
00:48:12And this is why in the just poor this is why what happens between Lydia and Lawrence happens between Lydia and Lawrence is that Lord
00:48:19Serbs won't let her grow up
00:48:21But isn't anyone who acts on these predatory impulses just an asshole who doesn't operate our morals
00:48:30What do you mean acts on these predatory impulses are you saying that over the course are big big l1 2 3 4
00:48:36Are you saying that over the course of your life?
00:48:38You've never had someone so submissive that you might get annoyed or snap at them
00:48:43never
00:48:44you are so absolutely abstracted and holy and
00:48:49Perfect that you have never been provoked into any kind of
00:48:54Acted out aggression against somebody who is
00:49:00Shaking and kneeling before you which is kind of annoying
00:49:05See when you give these kinds of moral criticisms you are coming from a place of
00:49:14Deranged vanity
00:49:16Are you saying that over the course of your entire life?
00:49:19You've never snapped at someone who's being overly obsequious or never been raise your voice or never
00:49:26rolled your eyes or like
00:49:30We all have and if you tell me you haven't you're lying because these are all instincts, right?
00:49:43Okay gonna be kept an obvious again, well, you know self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom
00:49:47But there is a big difference between snapping at someone being pathetic in the moment and then devising plans to exploit them over the long
00:49:53term
00:49:54and
00:49:57And
00:49:59You know, I just wanted to tell you I just wanted to tell you Steph that stealing a single piece of bubblegum is
00:50:06Less bad than plotting to steal an entire bank vault over six months
00:50:13Now see I need you to up your standards right about how you're contributing, right?
00:50:19There is a difference between something which is less bad and something that is really bad, right?
00:50:25But what this person said but isn't anyone who acts on these predatory impulses just an asshole who doesn't operate on morals
00:50:32So what you're saying is that either you're an asshole who doesn't operate on morals or you've never acted on these predatory impulses
00:50:40Never acted on these predatory impulses. And if you tell me you've never acted on these predatory impulses
00:50:46You're just lying to me because we all have
00:50:49Everybody has I'm pretty good guy. I certainly have
00:50:55I think my IQ is caps at chicken body temperature. No self-insults. Don't don't solve it. I
00:51:05Knew a wimpy kid like that in high school was happy for him when he finally started to grow a pair and started to setting
00:51:10Himself. Well, that's the Crispin Gloving character in back to the future, right?
00:51:20No, so if it's obvious to you it's obvious to other people that's all
00:51:25I
00:51:27Try not to act on these impulses, but I don't like it when I do it. Although some have been
00:51:32Far worse
00:51:33No, I get it. I get it. I have to you know, grit my teeth and restrain myself, but I'm not saying it
00:51:38I'm never gonna say in my life. I never acted on aggression. I'm confronted with pathological
00:51:45Obsequiousness
00:51:50Yeah, I mean we all have these instincts for sure
00:51:54So I just sort of wanted to point out that if you say oh the people who act on these impulses are just evil
00:52:01And it's like what so you're just telling me that you don't have a realistic assessment of your own capacity
00:52:08for virtue advice
00:52:15You know, like I find it annoying I get it this is a tiny tiny little pet peeve of mine, right
00:52:21So, you know these these waiters like
00:52:27And you you order your food and they're like perfect it's like it's not perfect
00:52:34I'm having a club sandwich. Oh
00:52:36perfect perfect it's like
00:52:39You're gonna give me a platonic ideal of a perfect club sandwich. It's my choice. Perfect. How would you even know?
00:52:44How would you judge it?
00:52:46Maybe I don't want that but it's the best and healthiest thing for me and maybe I actually want a chocolate bomb Vesuvius crater
00:52:53Or something like that, right, but it's a perfect. It's like
00:52:56Stop it. It's not perfect. It's just my order
00:53:00I'm an excellent choice. It's perfect
00:53:05Or you know if you
00:53:08Know you're good. No, you're good. You're good. You're good. It's like
00:53:12What are you telling me I'm good for
00:53:14You don't know you don't even know really what I'm talking about
00:53:17So just all these people who come in and it's you know, you're good. No perfect
00:53:21Yeah, so this is a manipulation on the part of the waiter, right?
00:53:26Yeah, perfect right there's world peace or a club sandwich now world peace would be perfect
00:53:31I get that a club sandwich a little tough to put in the same category
00:53:35You
00:53:39But I get it they're they're praising you all perfect your choices are perfect everything you do isn't it perfect so that you'll tip them
00:53:46Better just feels a bit gross. That's all
00:53:50You know, like just just bring my my food and be a generally pleasant waiter and
00:53:55Check in with me and that's fine. But you don't need to say that what I'm choosing is perfect. Perfect
00:54:01Yeah
00:54:05All right, I'm sucking my toes and calling me a calling yourself a podiatrist I
00:54:10Also think petitions positions of authority make it worse
00:54:14The older I've gotten in my lab the more new people need my help and the power imbalance is greater
00:54:18It takes conscious effort to not get upset when they ask me stupid things day in and day out
00:54:23Really?
00:54:24so you're saying that
00:54:26You
00:54:28Having power over obsequious people tends to make people more aggressive and
00:54:34You think that other people are saying stupid things? Come on, man, that's obvious
00:54:39You know when it comes to abusing power
00:54:43More power can lead to more abuse. I am a big brain
00:54:48Now, I'm sorry. I'm sorry if you're spending time around dumb people, but you're not around dumb people
00:54:54Right, you're not
00:54:56You're not around dumb people. So you just have to up your game
00:54:58but the funny thing is that you're complaining about people saying silly things that are blindingly obvious and
00:55:05You're saying literally in the same tension. It's a silly thing. That is blindly obvious. Well
00:55:09Power tends to corrupt. Yeah. Yeah Lord Acton said it 150 years ago. We got it. We got it. You know one of that
00:55:18Yeah, all right, yeah, so if a woman if your mother won't let you grow up
00:55:24You you ditch her
00:55:28Like you're gonna grow up this was sort of my like I'm gonna grow up you're on board or you're gone
00:55:36Right, like you're I'm gonna grow up you're on board or you're gone, right?
00:55:42I'm going to continue to mature. I'm gonna continue to be wise
00:55:45I'm gonna continue to dig in and try and make the best out of my life. You're on board or
00:55:51You're gone
00:55:54To me it's like
00:55:57Okay, this ship is leaving the dock
00:56:00You're on the dock you're on the ship if you're in the middle you're in the water
00:56:09So, yeah when my mother wouldn't let me have a voice or have a word or grow up or have
00:56:14Perspectives or opinions that differed from hers. It's like
00:56:17Bye
00:56:20Oh
00:56:21Bye
00:56:22And I can't imagine I don't tell you I can't imagine how crushingly depressed I would be if I hadn't made that choice. Oh my god
00:56:30just monstrous
00:56:34And listen, I'm not trying to be mean to you guys are donors and all of that and you know at some point
00:56:38I'm sure you'll totally figure out and understand that when I kind of give you this shock
00:56:43Like you've been around dumb people or average people and then you're around smart people
00:56:47So you have to up your game in terms of the contributions
00:56:50Like two plus two equals four is great for kindergarten. It's not great for graduate school. So I'm just I'm just challenging you to up
00:56:59Stop saying things that are obvious and to up your contribution to stop because this is automatic behavior, right?
00:57:04Because if you thought ahead of time
00:57:07About whether or saying, you know
00:57:10The more power you have the more you can be dominant with people
00:57:14It's like that's the entire definition of power is being able to be dominant over people, right? That's why
00:57:20When the pizza guy in the car says you need to pull over you won't but when the cop says that you will
00:57:26The cop has a gun, right? So we all know this. It's all very obvious very blinding
00:57:30It's all we experienced in school. We experienced in church. We experienced in dysfunctional families
00:57:33So I'm just what I'm doing is challenging you to stop regurgitating
00:57:39Obvious fortune cookies and thinking you're adding something and start to think creatively and alive in the moment
00:57:46That's the challenge, right? Since I'm on a night shift. It's hard to catch daytime streams. Yes, that is obvious
00:57:52So we're saying Steph gives great advice and I think worth supporting good book. Thank you. I appreciate that
00:57:57This is worth reminding worth reminding. All right, any of the last questions comments issues challenges problems?
00:58:03I've got a call in this afternoon and this week
00:58:08I'm gonna get started on this new book now that my health is back from the near-death
00:58:12experience of
00:58:14Close to terminal conjunctivitis. I can't open my eye
00:58:21Somebody says well to my credit my brainpower is at a low and I'm over emotional because of crazy pregnancy hormones
00:58:27So I just asked for a little mercy. Lol. I did cry but I cry at everything. So it's fine. I'm trying
00:58:32Well, see that's the thing. That's the challenge, right?
00:58:34So if you say well, I said a blindingly obvious thing and then you say well
00:58:39But I've got all these hormones and and and sold of that kind of stuff
00:58:42I well
00:58:43but if you know that then you should pause and ask yourself if what you're doing is really gonna
00:58:48Contribute to the conversation now what you did does contribute to the conversation and listen if it's any
00:58:53Consolation if it's any consolation I do this to myself on a regular basis
00:58:57like why is it shows continue to be innovative and new and new ideas because I
00:59:02Grindingly try to avoid repeating myself as much as possible and I grindingly filter and say is this obvious before I say something
00:59:10It's this obvious. Is this too obvious?
00:59:13Is this so and and there are times when I do say things that are blindingly obvious
00:59:17I can't remember the details
00:59:19But I was saying something to my daughter the other day and then I just paused and I said that was so blindingly obvious
00:59:26I'm so sorry. Like that was just that was such a blindingly obvious thing to say
00:59:30it was something along the lines of
00:59:33you have to
00:59:35You have to anticipate traffic further ahead the faster you're going right and then I was like, I'm so sorry
00:59:41Like that's that's that's ridiculously obvious. You're far too intelligent to have to be told that and
00:59:46I'm really sorry about that. I have to I have to point this out
00:59:49I do it with myself and it's one of the ways that I keep myself. I think at a fairly high level of
00:59:58Productivity and value is that I just have to be relentless in not
01:00:03Saying things that are obvious and so I'm just inviting you into that same space, right?
01:00:08No fault divorce has been a disaster
01:00:11well, the no fault simply means that the fault accrues to the
01:00:15Children, which is very sad. All right
01:00:19Now let me and congratulations on your pregnancy
01:00:22That's a beautiful thing and I mommy brain is a real thing
01:00:24I get that my wife had to sometimes get back for the car three times because she forgot stuff
01:00:28I mean you've made a whole new brain and it takes a while for yours to recover. So I sympathize with that
01:00:33I really do and love
01:00:35Love the fact that you're gonna be a mom and I think that's beautiful and wonderful. So don't take this in any particularly negative
01:00:42Negative way, right?
01:00:44all right, so
01:00:48I'm gonna say oh, yeah hit me with a
01:00:51Why if you're okay with this going to the general stream, I know this was a donor stream only
01:00:56But it's nice sometimes for people to see what goes on behind the closed flickering fiery doors of infinite intellect in its collective sense
01:01:04So hit me with a why if you're okay with this going to the general stream hit with an N if you think it should
01:01:09be kept in the hallowed halls of
01:01:12The donor only okay, it looks like everyone's fine with it. Okay. I just wanted to check on that. All right. I
01:01:18You know, you ever have this thing in life, yeah, okay. Oh you help me out for once you selfish people
01:01:23I'm just kidding, but once just you help me. I cannot I I don't want to eat anything these days
01:01:28I'm I'm pretty bored with just about everything that I want to eat. I don't know what it is. I don't know what it is
01:01:35It's a strange
01:01:37It's a strange thing
01:01:39I'm just like I'm like, yeah, I could eat this. Yeah, I could eat that
01:01:43Maybe it's just a post illness or whatever, but it's an odd thing. I
01:01:48Don't know that. I mean, I probably had this before at times in my life, but yeah, maybe I'm pregnant
01:01:53maybe
01:01:55Pregnant pause pregnant with thought
01:01:57Hey bocce for me. Yeah, maybe I go and try some Korean hot pot or something or
01:02:03kimchi or I just I'm like
01:02:06This is what happens when you're 58
01:02:08It's just you get bored of everything that you've eaten and you're just like, oh, it's just boring fuel
01:02:12I'm literally not I'm not I'm not eating because I'm just bored of everything that there is to eat
01:02:17I'm like, oh I could have this
01:02:19Have some trail mix
01:02:23Nothing is that yummy for either maybe it may be my I don't know maybe my taste buds diminished over my illness. I don't know
01:02:30Maybe a little inner Steph finally realized it's not scarce. Yeah, maybe new cultural food ideas
01:02:36Every meal is old now. Try something new. Yeah, you see now that's an obvious thing, right?
01:02:42Oh if you're bored of what you have you should try something new like I haven't that hasn't crossed my mind at all
01:02:48That's just kind of funny, right?
01:02:52Keep my weight down. Yeah, wait, it's good. Wait, it's good. Wait is wait is good
01:02:58So, all right, well if you have any ideas you can let me know
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